after browsing some threads I think I'm more confused than before I came across this site. Half the things I read say to show interest right from the get go because apparently if you wait then the girl will assume you just want to be friends. The other half say if you show interest too soon then the girl gets freaked out. What do you guys think?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
do you show interest asap or further down the line
- Thread starter duke104
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Diaforetikos
Senior Don Juan
Show interest after you see her interest in you. For this you need to learn to read the "Indicators of Interest". But once you can read her and she is showing signs of interest, give her a little sign yourself, because like you said, if you don't show any interest, she'll think you just want to be friends.
When you do show interest though, don't be so strong with it. Be chill and have fun. But after this initial display of interest, don't show much else. She should be wondering why you aren't interested anymore. She is supposed to fight for your attention at this point. Keep her interest high and you'll have won her over soon enough.
When you do show interest though, don't be so strong with it. Be chill and have fun. But after this initial display of interest, don't show much else. She should be wondering why you aren't interested anymore. She is supposed to fight for your attention at this point. Keep her interest high and you'll have won her over soon enough.
SgtSplacker
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You always want to be sexual, so this is a way of showing interest off the bat.
But you don't want to express your affections too early or even at all.
Sexual interest is different than relationship interest...
Sexual goes first, relationship goes after she goes...
But you don't want to express your affections too early or even at all.
Sexual interest is different than relationship interest...
Sexual goes first, relationship goes after she goes...
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
duke104 said:
I think you should view this site as a source of opinions, not facts. We're talking about human interaction, after all. Not math. There are no 100% definite answers - Other than the basic - women want men.
What works for you might not work for me. Different personalities will have different styles of game.
To answer your question - whether or not I show interest right away depends on the situation, and it depends on your definition of "show interest".
If it's a girl who I'll see a lot (work, gym, coffee shop, etc) then I don't show interest right away. Maybe I'll chat with her, make her laugh, etc. But I don't lay it on heavy with the flirting, because I know I'll see her again.
If it's a girl who I WON'T see a lot (nightclub, bar, party), then I show interest quickly. Flirting, kino, etc. In this situation, I have to make my attraction clear because who knows if I see this girl again.
How I show interest also depends on the situation. Obviously, you wouldn't flirt with a girl at work the same way you'd flirt with a girl in a night club.