Do you open the car door for girls?

[Aurora Demon]

Just curious. I never do this and it hasn’t affected my results. But I wonder if it would make dates better for the girl’s experience.

 

[Sophisticator]

I open the car door for any passenger, whether it's my grandmother or an aunt or a niece or my date.

 

[Aurora Demon]

I open the car door for any passenger, whether it's my grandmother or an aunt or a niece or my date.

Only female passengers, right?

 

[Sophisticator]

Only female passengers, right?

No, all the elderly / disabled people also, regardless of their gender.

The reason a gentleman opens the car door for a lady is to make sure he can assist her in exiting the car without tripping on her heels or accidentally exposing herself more than absolutely necessary to the paparazzi.

 

[Aurora Demon]

No, all the elderly / disabled people also, regardless of their gender.

The reason a gentleman opens the car door for a lady is to make sure he can assist her in exiting the car without tripping on her heels or accidentally exposing herself more than absolutely necessary to the paparazzi.

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So you do more than open the door? Like holding her hand out to the car?

 

[Sophisticator]

So you do more than open the door? Like holding her hand out to the car?

Of course. Helping her from the car. Offering her my arm when we walk into the venue.
Shows good breeding. Just like chewing with your mouth closed and looking someone in the eye when you shake their hand.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Seems to be about half the time.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Yes, I let them sit down first at dinner, give them roses, escort them to romantic places, pick them up in my car smelling nice and super clean, lead them on the dance floor, wear the clothes and colours they like, light up their cigarette/blunt, bring gifts, open the champagne, fresh haircut, etc. - once, l even bought a water cooler, filled it with ice cream, and kept it in my car because I knew she loved it and we ate it together. It's all part of the spectacle and ritual, filling her senses with thoughts of me. The more senses are engaged, the less room there is for reason and rationality.

The real purpose isn't just to impress - it's to shift her focus. The small details prevent her from seeing the larger picture. Instead of wondering what I might be after (sex, power, control), she sees someone deeply considerate, attuned to her desires. The heightened ceremony of it all keeps her immersed, making the moment feel grand and intentional. I find that these details are necessary and cannot be ignored.

Disclaimer: You need to be sure that the person you're engaging with is intrigued by you and already feels some desire. Everything you do should heighten their pleasure and make them want more. If you start doing all of this on the first meet-up or before they're certain they like you, you'll come across as overbearing-or worse, a creep. Social calibration is key. Generally, I would treat them the same as a general person if there is no romantic interest.

 

[zekko]

I used to do this. As feminism has taken over and chivalry has died off, I've stopped.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

If it's on the way to my door, ie, if we are walking to a place and I pass by the passenger door first I will sometimes do it. Otherwise no.

 

[plumber]

the other side of this, is does the passenger reach over and unlock the driver door after you helped them get in.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

I have never once held open a car door for a woman, helped her get out of the car, or pulled up chair for her at a dinner table. I don't even hold doors open for them when entering buildings, at least in the sense of purposely walking ahead, holding the door open, and letting them pass (though I do that for my mother). I walk in and keep the door held open for them as we're bothing walking in, like I would for anyone else.

Out of principal I refuse to give woman special treatment like this. The classy, real women back in the day may have deserved it, but the idea of doing this for a typical modern woman with NPD and 30+ body counts is laughable and pathetic to me. Aren't they independent, empowered women? Why would this not be insulting to them?

 

[CornbreadFed]

No and I naturally attract women that don’t care about that shvt.

 

[Bokanovsky]

The reason a valet opens the car door for a lady is to make sure he can assist her in exiting the car without tripping on her heels or accidentally exposing herself more than absolutely necessary to the paparazzi.

Fixed it for you. A real gentleman does not open the door for anybody, including himself. That’s what servants are for.

 

[Oatmeal31]

Just curious. I never do this and it hasn’t affected my results. But I wonder if it would make dates better for the girl’s experience.

Yes, and building doors as well. I see no reason not to unless she's a biatch. And if she's a biatch, then you shouldn't be dating her

 

[sevbucmash]

Of course. Chilvery goes a long long way.

 

[BeExcellent]

My husband, more often than not, does this. He also pulls out my chair at restaurants, opens building doors for me, gives me his arm and helps me with heavy bags. I unlock or open his car door often & I always say Thank You. He likes treating me like a lady and I appreciate that he does these chivalrous things. Not only does it show "good breeding", it also reinforces in little ways our husband/wife or gentleman/lady dynamic.

Its quite nice.

 

[crowolf]

Doesn’t matter. If you do it, the only thing that will matter is whether you do it like James Bond or like a silly nice guy.

But overall I think it's a good thing to do. And, like @BeExcellent said, it reinforces the dynamic.

 

[Sophisticator]

Fixed it for you. A real gentleman does not open the door for anybody, including himself. That’s what servants are for.

You sound like a real prince.

 

[Sophisticator]

That's why you're not valued. If you treat everyone like a celebrity, they'll treat you like a servant, simp.

If you think opening someone's car door is 'treating them like a celebrity', I have no doubt that you will be regarded as a serf.