"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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do you need to give facebook HBs more time then girls you've already met?

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this has been a sticking point for me, if u meet a chick for a date you've already met if she flakes out on u for whatever reason then next her.

but with facebook girls, you're a complete stranger and she might get more wary of that fact closer to the time of meeting. should u give them more time and allow a couple of flakes?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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i cant understand this 1 i've been trying to meet, 1st time i got her number i tried to make date for next day but she was leaving the country for a week to go back home. when she came back she offered me the week after but no specific time/date as she had exams that week. so i suggested monday/tuesday this week. she agreed. (she always texts me back like within 2mins)

(on friday i got stood up by another facebook HB so was quite angry and ended up trying to meet up with this 1 saying i was on my way home.)

when it came to organising the time on sunday she didn't reply (usually she only takes like 2mins to reply), then i called her the next day and she gave me some BS reason her phone has a block, so i said i was busy wednesday and we should do thursday. she agreed.

i knew full well that she'd probably flake, and low and behold she's done it. i was annoyed so i texted her 'this is the 3rd time you've cancelled on me! ;) every time u say another time for whatever reason.. :-s u only get one chance with me so how's Sunday?'

she didn't get back to me within a few mins so i know she was not going to reply, so i called her, no pick up.

then i realised it was the 4th time she's actually done it so i decided to tell her i wasn't interested anymore. 'actually u know what, its the 4th time u cancelled, so forget it, i dont want to meet u anymore. its your responsibility to offer another time now, not mine.'

is this all too little too late?

to be honest her past 2 major flakes makes it seem like im just doing her a favour by not wanting to see her anymore. i feel angry cos i put so much effort in trying to sort this out. opening girls is hard work and frustrating when it constantly fails even if u get the number.

i cant figure out how/why these girls suddenly have high interest semi-counter offer then somehow lose interest even if u haven't been too full on or clingy. my only suspicions as they usually are is that in between the periods of her cancelling and u setting up another time she meets some other guy for a date who she likes (not from facebook) and now is only seeing one guy hence flakes on you. is this logical? cos it's my only explanation for what happens..
 
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Not only did she flake on you 4 times but instead of dropping her a long time ago u told her that u want her to call you and make plans this time.
She wants nothing to to with you with the way that you are acting
 
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but it wasn't actually 4 times.. the 1st 2 she wasn't even in the country, if u want to get pendantic then yes they're flakes. then the one on monday was when it all started to go wrong.

what the hell happened??

friday everything was cool, she was responding to me straight away. it's like as if i they know i have run out of options so flake.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Facebook dating is so attractive, i wonder why these girls are flaking on you.
 
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