Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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AETude

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its not love until 50 years later and you are still happy in the same bed.

anyone else want to define love ? because all that bull**** respect mutual shyt doesnt last, theres always something to stuff something up.

I dont think i will ever find true love, but its worth hopping for. letting my heart being stabbed and squashed a few times is enough, its all about personal experience.... Just make everyday a happy day :)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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RicFury

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Not wanting to game her. Putting her needs at equal importance to yours. Being willing to sacrifice to make the relationship stronger. Loosing interest in other women, both physically and emotionally. Lately I've found that I look at other girls less, and don't fantasize about anyone BUT my gf. Women who used to be attractive to me just aren't anymore, except for my gf who gives me a hardon just thinking about her.

Geez, I thought everybody knew what love is!
I do really love my girlfriend and will NOT cheat on her. I have too much respect for her and she trusts me absolutely.
I felt all of these things, and that is why I got married! Read my post:


http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=133500
 

(JJ)

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i doubt many people actually ever experience "love". my parents are like the only ones i've ever really seen. they've been married for like 20 years and my dad still negs my mom and stuff (unknowingly, he's too old to kno any kind of game techniques), but they also just enjoy each other's company. when my dad goes outta town, my mom gets genuinely sad about not seeing him. personally, even though i've said i "loved" a girl (dont worry it was like 4 mos into the relationship), i kno that i didnt really. sometimes, people get caught up in the IDEA of love, the same way guys get caught up in the idea of romanticism. love is portrayed the same way that romanticism is in our society, and we all kno how "realistic" movies and things are when it comes to the common theme of "romantic guys getting all the girls"
 

Someone Much cooler

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I love my wifey unconditionally! I plan to be with her for the rest of my life. I will do almost anything for her. i definatly have oneitis cause im not interested in anyone else, but thats cool, thats how we both prefer it. Her name is One hundred dollar bill, she is always with me...=)
 

Fuglydude

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If I didn't love my gf, I wouldn't be with her...why would anyone have an exclusive gf w/o being in love with her???
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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iqqi

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mintxx said:
I love my girlfriend. I love it when she's happy, and I value her very highly on many levels. But I don't need to be with her for my own happiness, and if she decides she wants to stop seeing me or I decide vice versa, I'm confident that a woman similarly well matched to my personality, intellect, sex drive and demand for black lace and summer dresses will be right around the corner. So, does this mean I'm deficient in some respect? Who knows. I'm a one woman at a time guy, but not a one woman guy. Important difference I reckon.

Props, and rep points.

Its funny when guys act like they are too smart for love, when really they are just scared sh!tless of it.
 

NSUballer

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I knew I didnt love my GF so I broke up with her last week. It hurt because I did like being with her but I knew she was not the "one" I was looking for. Im lookin for the one that can get my attention and hold it forever. The one that will be there no matter what. The one that has grabbed my attention so strongly that i would never consider being with anyone else. The one Im going to marry. Thats what Im looking for, Ive done the one night stand thing and hated it. Ive done the single thing and it sucks. And Ive done the relationship thing and it was great except it wasnt with the right girl.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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