You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I'm an introverted guy. But I can hold an intelligent conversation with just about anyone. I've never had a problem having a conversation with a reasonably intelligent, non vapid girl.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:There are likely a lot of introverts here. Introverted women are soooo difficult to crack and very draining to be around, especially for another introvert.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
of all the generalizations posted on this forum (of which there are a lot), I nominate this one generalization of the year.skinnyguy said:If a woman is an extrovert and has been validated socially her whole life, she will probably:
1) Gossip a lot. The women I see in the lunch room who have the most friends are always gossiping about others, and also talking about people who are "wronging" them in some way. As if they are the center of the universe. I take the same treatment from people and have never complained once.
2) Try to boss over you. She will try to get you to "change" yourself, because she knows she can next you for another guy if you don't comply.
3) Make everything about herself. I've never met an extroverted woman who volunteered at a homeless shelter. Never.
I'm not claiming to have met every woman in the world who volunteers at a homeless shelter. I'm just claiming that the gossipy women at the office don't do these kinds of things because everything is about them. This is not an opinion it's a fact. I do know several women who volunteer on a regular basis.sylvester the cat said:of all the generalizations posted on this forum (of which there are a lot), I nominate this one generalization of the year.
How many women who volunteer at homeless shelters do you know?
Or are you saying you've met every woman in the world who volunteers at homeless shelters that qualifies that ridiculous statement?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Can you supply evidence to back up these 'facts'? I'm getting tired of all these facts being thrown around without any evidence to substantiate them.skinnyguy said:I'm not claiming to have met every woman in the world who volunteers at a homeless shelter. I'm just claiming that the gossipy women at the office don't do these kinds of things because everything is about them. This is not an opinion it's a fact. I do know several women who volunteer on a regular basis.
sylvester the cat said:Can you supply evidence to back up these 'facts'? I'm getting tired of all these facts being thrown around without any evidence to substantiate them.