"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"Do you like me?"

popsickle

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I have been exclusive with my girlfriend for about 4 months now. It's been going well and we do a lot of activities/trips together and with others.
Recently there has been a recurring theme of her telling me that she likes me "a lot" and then asking me if "I even like her". At first I thought it was just kind of a joke so I dealt with it playfully. A few days ago though she talked to me a bit more seriously and told me she really feels like she is doing everything to make me happy (which is true) and finds that she is unsure whether I feel the same way and that I don't seem to put as much effort.
I am not sure how to deal with this - how much reassurance can I really give verbally? I obviously don't want her to feel like I am detached as I think she is a great girl.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Doctor Europeo

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Maybe tell her that I you didn´t like her, you wouldn´t be investing time in her.
 

Billtx49

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You're being too distant/aloof.

Don't be so aloof.
Probably so. He might be a bit too internalized with some reluctance in expressing his thoughts and feelings.
She may not be getting the message she wants to hear.
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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