Do you keep in touch with girls you've banged

[wonderer]

If you've banged a girl and she moves away. But she might be coming back at some point, do you keep in touch every now and then to keep you in her mind, or do you let her come to you?

I haven't messaged a girl I banged on Friday, but she might be back in a month. It's only a might. We haven't agreed anything. When she left she said I'd never see her again trying to be cold.

 

[dustmuffin]

Could try. Wouldn't hurt. Might as well throw out a line and see if she bites.

 

[lizardking82]

I never keep in touch with girls I was involved feeling wise with, like a lot. I cannot have my ex-es as friends because after the breakup, there was a period I wanted them and then I couldn't give a **** if they were alive or not.

But other girls? Oh yeah, there is this girl I had sex with for a couple of months, she's a very good friend now, no problem at all. I get a feeling that the more the girl turns you on, the harder it is to be friends with her at any point in time. If the attraction was just average, then you can be friends.

 

[bigneil]

Well, after the breakup then absolutely no contact until the feelings are gone. But years later? Yes, the girls I loved the most are still Facebook friends. If I write to them and tell them I still love them they will say they love me too. Those relationships mean a lot when it comes to trusting my current women. They mean a lot to my current women also. Women want to know we can cultivate long term romances and that we have never been disqualified by previous lovers.

 

[Glassguy]

Keep stringing your plates along, leave the old flames (relationships) in the past.

 

[RangerMIke]

Sure.... all the time. It's just sex... really... it's not a big deal. Three of my best 'girl' friends are chicks I've slept with, one is my financial adviser (no sh!t)... two are married now, one is engaged... so nothing happens between us anymore, but they are great.

The way you pull this off is to be COMPLETELY honest with chicks with who you are and what you want. The only time you have problem is when you are less than honest with chicks. Being less than honest makes it harder to get chicks.... but it is a numbers game... keep at it and you find gals that are okay with whatever lifestyle you have.

 

[GT40]

No not really. The past is the past.
I ignore them on Instagram too. Can't be bothered and why really?

 

[AlphaNate]

I don't even keep in touch with girls I'm currently banging.

 

[wonderer]

No not really. The past is the past.
I ignore them on Instagram too. Can't be bothered and why really?

To open the doors to another bang?

 

[FwoGiZ]

Ya I keep in touch but by that I mean, every once in several years, I'll drop em a msg and see what's up. I have high success rate of banging them again, because I never do drama first of all, and when I leave, it's always in good terms, then I also apply no contact rules if there was more emotions involved.

Here's an example; I was banging this chick 8 years ago, but she wanted a bf so we split. Then she was with my best bud which was a 6months nightmare from my understanding, then she met some guy that she married. I sent her a msg 2-3 months ago to catch up, she's fckin sick and tired of her husband and marriage, then I explained her how monogamy doesn't work and she's a walking proof of it. Then we banged.
She knows I have a gf, she likes that I am discreet and I made her understand it doesn't mean that she doesn't love her husband anymore, it's just that homo sapiens aren't meant to be monogamous.
Everyone is happy in the end, she's feeling satisfied and the guilt is tolerable. She's a very smart women with degree in bio genetic I think?

I am in good terms with a lot of my exs too... We'll get in touch when they get sick of their beta bf or in between them sometimes. We'll bang until she finds another beta... some of them just don't get it tho.