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She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

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Do you have a foreign name?

SuSHI

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This is for the people in north America.

I just want to know how many people on this board has a foreign name, and their experiences with it.

I have one, and have a canadian name as well. Am going back to school, and thinking of using my foreign name for good. Its not a big deal but i constantly obsess over this.
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I have a foreign name, and like you, i feel really self concious about it. Thats why I made up a north american name, but now kind of want to go back.

Anyone else have thoughts on this?
 

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Guys just learn to live with it. I'm from Bosnia and I live in the Netherlands. My first name is ok to speak out. But my last name is so difficult people can't even speak it out. I learned to deal with it. It's a part of my identity and no way I'm going to change it.
 

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When I was younger I use to be self conscious about it. I would remember in school when they would have to pronounce my name for attendance it would take the teacher 2 or 3 times to get it correct. When I was younger I used a american name and I felt really fake when I was using it I don't know why. Why make a fuss about a name? I later found out how pointless it was to care about a name. V-men, I'am from montenegro.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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SuSHI said:
This is for the people in north America.

I just want to know how many people on this board has a foreign name, and their experiences with it.
I can relate to you on this one...

I have a completely Russian name that is no-where to the typical Anglo-Saxon names everyone is used to over here in the States.

But, as long as I can remember, I have always been proud of the name bestowed upon me by the grace of God. :cool:

I do not even consider it a liabilitiy anymore :yes:
In fact it sets me apart from all the other guys chicks come in contact with...
(I'm talking about those typical names like Joe, Jim, Bob, John)


From whenever I can remeber, the b1tcjes that I game always end up saying something along the lines of,
"Oh My God! That is suuuuch a cool name! Where are you from?"

Can't really say I'm upset with that kind of response ;)
 

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My name is a typical sounding name, except it spelt different. It's the Gallic spelling. It's really only one letter changed, but people have a hard time grasping the concept.

People are always caught off-guard, and usually over pronounce things. I've heard god knows how many different ways pronunciations.

But I'm with you all, I love my name.

People always give me looks like "Where do you put the Y?" I always say something witty like, "Guess" or "It goes in the beginning. It's silent."

Usually, people complement it, saying it makes me unique. I certainly think so.

So guys, go with your names though, no one wants to be another John Roberts or John Doe.

Be unique.
 

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I have a foreign, Asian name (and lots of nicknames I made up just for fun when I'm out picking up). When I explain the meaning of my real name to people, especially women, they go "Wow! That's so cool!" I love my name.
 

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Hey, so I have had a north american name for a long time, and have dated outside my race before. I am asian, and my asian name is pretty asian sounding (Its pronounced KWANG). Anyways, I am going back to school and have decided to have a fresh start and use my asian name. I honestly will feel pretty self concious about it, esp when trying to game girls that are not asian.

Is this really stupid? I dont care for politically correct answers, I can respect whatever you guys think. Have anyone here had the same problems when gaming girls, or am I just being stupid?

i am proud of the name, and thats why I am doing this, I just want to know what to expect.
 

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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You're just being stupid about it. I date mostly non-Asian girls (majority being white girls). Never had a problem with the name. The only time there was a slightest issue was when I dated an Asian Australian girl who found it strange that I don't have an anglocized name and assumed that I was some crazy traditional or too much into ethnic pride or some sh!t. I just told her that I already have a name, why need another one?
 

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The vast majority or North Americans will have foreign names, and doesn't do them any harm.
 

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I Agree.
I think that it's not my name that i dislike, but the stereotype of asians that go along with really asian sounding names. Its like you never see a cool asian on tv with a foreign name (or much asians at all).

for example. Harold from Harold and Kumar.
 
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