Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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"do you have a crush on (some girl) ?"

djbr

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What is the, let's say, "suave" answer to this question, asked by a friend of the girl in question, in these cases:

1) you do have the boners for the girl in question
2) you don't.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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anyone who uses the term 'crush' is either a) 15 yr old, or b) thinks you're an AFC b/c no DJ has 'crushes' on girls He's already taken care of it so crushes dont have time to develop
 

djbr

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Wiesman44 said:
anyone who uses the term 'crush' is either a) 15 yr old, or b) thinks you're an AFC b/c no DJ has 'crushes' on girls He's already taken care of it so crushes dont have time to develop
LOL.

I'm Brazilian! ...and too lazy to think of another term that translates what I was trying to ask. :)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"no baby, your the only one i dream about at night (w/ short one arm hug and sarcasam), infact, you ware puirty good last night."
 
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