"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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OK I'll make this short and to the point. I met this girl last week at work (note that she doesn't work where I do) and I think we hit it off pretty well (some kino, laughter, etc). Because I was at work I did not get any contact info so as not to make things awkward. However, I'm pretty sure I ran into her today around campus, but I didn't recognize her at the time. I know she saw me but still I didn't say anything because I honestly wasn't sure if it was her and didn't want to look weird calling out her name. So do you guys think this poses a problem for any chance I may have had?
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What I see is this: you met her at work? Was she a customer? Then her hitting it off with you may have just been her being social as part of her business transaction, not necessarily her indicating her interest in you.

Is the business transaction over with (or it wasn't about business to begin with)? Then now you can go in and see. But now you have to find her and "accidentally" cross paths. And when you do, get her number.

If it wasn't about business to begin with that brought her to you, then you should've asked for her number back then (unless your boss was standing right there, but then again, if he was, then you wouldn't be flirting with a chick while you're supposed to be working, would you?).

'Didn't want to make things awkward / didn't want to look weird'... I think you may need to overcome your self-consciousness some.
 
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So do you guys think this poses a problem for any chance I may have had?
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If you know for a fact that you'll see her again, then no you didn't ruin your chance with her. If you'll see her again, this may have actually raised her interest level in you. She'll be wondering why you didn't come say hi, or wonder if you even saw her. The point is, she'll be thinking about you.

She might bring it up next time you see her, but you can say you didn't see her, were in a hurry, etc.

If you're never going to see her again, then you're screwed!!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Hambone2550 said:
If you know for a fact that you'll see her again, then no you didn't ruin your chance with her. If you'll see her again, this may have actually raised her interest level in you. She'll be wondering why you didn't come say hi, or wonder if you even saw her. The point is, she'll be thinking about you.
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This is an excellent point. I made a post in a thread a few days ago about how a women's imagination is our most powerful weapon and that we really need to utilize it more.
 
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Ok so eh sees her again... should ha admit that he did not recognize her last time and was too afraid to ask if it was her??? Just wondering... and how should he respond when she asks why he didi talk to her/ignored her...
 
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