"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Do you guys think this is a problem

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ezily

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OK I'll make this short and to the point. I met this girl last week at work (note that she doesn't work where I do) and I think we hit it off pretty well (some kino, laughter, etc). Because I was at work I did not get any contact info so as not to make things awkward. However, I'm pretty sure I ran into her today around campus, but I didn't recognize her at the time. I know she saw me but still I didn't say anything because I honestly wasn't sure if it was her and didn't want to look weird calling out her name. So do you guys think this poses a problem for any chance I may have had?
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What I see is this: you met her at work? Was she a customer? Then her hitting it off with you may have just been her being social as part of her business transaction, not necessarily her indicating her interest in you.

Is the business transaction over with (or it wasn't about business to begin with)? Then now you can go in and see. But now you have to find her and "accidentally" cross paths. And when you do, get her number.

If it wasn't about business to begin with that brought her to you, then you should've asked for her number back then (unless your boss was standing right there, but then again, if he was, then you wouldn't be flirting with a chick while you're supposed to be working, would you?).

'Didn't want to make things awkward / didn't want to look weird'... I think you may need to overcome your self-consciousness some.
 
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So do you guys think this poses a problem for any chance I may have had?
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If you know for a fact that you'll see her again, then no you didn't ruin your chance with her. If you'll see her again, this may have actually raised her interest level in you. She'll be wondering why you didn't come say hi, or wonder if you even saw her. The point is, she'll be thinking about you.

She might bring it up next time you see her, but you can say you didn't see her, were in a hurry, etc.

If you're never going to see her again, then you're screwed!!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Hambone2550 said:
If you know for a fact that you'll see her again, then no you didn't ruin your chance with her. If you'll see her again, this may have actually raised her interest level in you. She'll be wondering why you didn't come say hi, or wonder if you even saw her. The point is, she'll be thinking about you.
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This is an excellent point. I made a post in a thread a few days ago about how a women's imagination is our most powerful weapon and that we really need to utilize it more.
 
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Ok so eh sees her again... should ha admit that he did not recognize her last time and was too afraid to ask if it was her??? Just wondering... and how should he respond when she asks why he didi talk to her/ignored her...
 
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