"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Do you guys think this is a problem

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OK I'll make this short and to the point. I met this girl last week at work (note that she doesn't work where I do) and I think we hit it off pretty well (some kino, laughter, etc). Because I was at work I did not get any contact info so as not to make things awkward. However, I'm pretty sure I ran into her today around campus, but I didn't recognize her at the time. I know she saw me but still I didn't say anything because I honestly wasn't sure if it was her and didn't want to look weird calling out her name. So do you guys think this poses a problem for any chance I may have had?
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What I see is this: you met her at work? Was she a customer? Then her hitting it off with you may have just been her being social as part of her business transaction, not necessarily her indicating her interest in you.

Is the business transaction over with (or it wasn't about business to begin with)? Then now you can go in and see. But now you have to find her and "accidentally" cross paths. And when you do, get her number.

If it wasn't about business to begin with that brought her to you, then you should've asked for her number back then (unless your boss was standing right there, but then again, if he was, then you wouldn't be flirting with a chick while you're supposed to be working, would you?).

'Didn't want to make things awkward / didn't want to look weird'... I think you may need to overcome your self-consciousness some.
 
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So do you guys think this poses a problem for any chance I may have had?
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If you know for a fact that you'll see her again, then no you didn't ruin your chance with her. If you'll see her again, this may have actually raised her interest level in you. She'll be wondering why you didn't come say hi, or wonder if you even saw her. The point is, she'll be thinking about you.

She might bring it up next time you see her, but you can say you didn't see her, were in a hurry, etc.

If you're never going to see her again, then you're screwed!!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Hambone2550 said:
If you know for a fact that you'll see her again, then no you didn't ruin your chance with her. If you'll see her again, this may have actually raised her interest level in you. She'll be wondering why you didn't come say hi, or wonder if you even saw her. The point is, she'll be thinking about you.
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This is an excellent point. I made a post in a thread a few days ago about how a women's imagination is our most powerful weapon and that we really need to utilize it more.
 
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Ok so eh sees her again... should ha admit that he did not recognize her last time and was too afraid to ask if it was her??? Just wondering... and how should he respond when she asks why he didi talk to her/ignored her...
 
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