today I was talking to this girl, she seemed very interested. unlike most women who pretend they have a life and walk away, she actually stayed and would not walk away. so respectful. had sticky eyes. I guess I was caught off guard becasue most women are rude so I didn't know how to handle someone who is not rude? everything was going well until I found out she is 15 years younger than me. then I told her "that might be too young for me" and suddenly my age became a problem for her and she realized I am too old for her. I don't know why I said "you are too young for me" it just felt weird me dating someone that young, I felt like those old creepy men. I also wanted to be fair and upfront with her so she doesn't think I am around her age. what do you do, you just don't bring it up?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
do you guys make age difference an issue?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Aristippus
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As long as you're both adults I don't see a problem. Depends on her maturity level too. I'm married and in my 40s but if I were single and dating, I would date women in their 30s, 40's, and 50's. Would avoid the 20-somethings as they tend to be very immature, especially these days.
Doctor Europeo
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Its not an issue if they are attracted to you. Its an excuse if they have low interest.
Hamurabimbi
Master Don Juan
i had a GF decades younger than me. was great. don’t worry about it.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Augustus_McCrae
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The next time that happens, if the age issue comes up, you need to respond with this:
“ Yes, I know… the age issue. I’ve been concerned about it too. But I just want you to know that even though I typically date women younger than you, I will make an exception in your case.
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SargeMaximus
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I don’t have a problem with it but some women do and they think out loud about it ad nauseum . I’m not sure how to overcome that without coming across as chasing so that’s usually my cue to move on and find another girl