today I was talking to this girl, she seemed very interested. unlike most women who pretend they have a life and walk away, she actually stayed and would not walk away. so respectful. had sticky eyes. I guess I was caught off guard becasue most women are rude so I didn't know how to handle someone who is not rude? everything was going well until I found out she is 15 years younger than me. then I told her "that might be too young for me" and suddenly my age became a problem for her and she realized I am too old for her. I don't know why I said "you are too young for me" it just felt weird me dating someone that young, I felt like those old creepy men. I also wanted to be fair and upfront with her so she doesn't think I am around her age. what do you do, you just don't bring it up?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
do you guys make age difference an issue?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Aristippus
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As long as you're both adults I don't see a problem. Depends on her maturity level too. I'm married and in my 40s but if I were single and dating, I would date women in their 30s, 40's, and 50's. Would avoid the 20-somethings as they tend to be very immature, especially these days.
Doctor Europeo
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Its not an issue if they are attracted to you. Its an excuse if they have low interest.
Hamurabimbi
Master Don Juan
i had a GF decades younger than me. was great. don’t worry about it.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Augustus_McCrae
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The next time that happens, if the age issue comes up, you need to respond with this:
“ Yes, I know… the age issue. I’ve been concerned about it too. But I just want you to know that even though I typically date women younger than you, I will make an exception in your case.
-Augustus-
SargeMaximus
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I don’t have a problem with it but some women do and they think out loud about it ad nauseum . I’m not sure how to overcome that without coming across as chasing so that’s usually my cue to move on and find another girl