"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

Do you guys like this style?

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

ImprovingJuan

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jan 7, 2005
Messages
202
Reaction score
13
both

when i dressed like this some time ago, i had girls checking me out. dont know if its ok now or not. personally i love black, white and gray colors.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

ImprovingJuan

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jan 7, 2005
Messages
202
Reaction score
13
do you think i can pull off some girls getting some tan and dressing like this, with some classy shades (ray ban aviator for example) ?
 

gravityeyelids

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 6, 2013
Messages
918
Reaction score
192
i mean i wouldnt go grocery shopping or do very casual activities in this, such as going to a BBQ outside or playing minigolf just chilling out or whatever. But if you're going out to eat, grabbing a drink or coffee or even just walking around downtown or a place where youll be seen, then I think it's a fresh look.
 

j.619

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Mar 12, 2014
Messages
221
Reaction score
12
Location
San Diego
Honestly, the style you choose isn't as important. Dress the way that makes you feel confident and comfortable. Being put together (as far as clothing and hygiene) is waaaay more effective than stressing over, or choosing, a specific style.
 

Don-Kong

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Apr 15, 2014
Messages
265
Reaction score
13
Blazers all the way. Good Italian shirt. Trousers or denim jeans, great shoes.

STATUS, as Lame as it seems, oozes value, ambition, passion, confidence etc
 
Top