"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Do you guys go to Spas- massages, facials, get pedicures for Men?

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I went to the mall yesterday and I got a facial with my parents. It felt relaxing and chill, they give you a head massage afterwards. Do you guys go to spas? That maybe a good way to de-stress.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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It felt relaxing and chill, they give you a head massage afterwards
Hope you tipped the 16 year old Cambodian girl who serviced you lavishly. She was almost certainly flogged with quadrapule the usual stripes by the spa's proprietor otherwise

Yeah, I enjoy getting a massage regularly
 
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On certain times of year/circumstnaces I might entertian the idea.

I got a pedicure done up in February for example, and a lady (SE Asian?) was touching my feet. I was just looking at her play with my feet and yeah that was cool. She massaged my feet afterwards with her bare hands, she kept the gloves off.

But generally any woman's touch is a big deal with me so I tend to use those types of services very sparingly, with certain restricted occasions, because another woman is touching me.

Seriously, the other day a female dentist did work on my teeth and her front panths accidentally touched my right arm/hand, and it's like even that turned me on. So, like spas and places like that sound like good, safe and less demonic type of places to pay for touch.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Sports massage a couple of times a year. I have friend who is therapist & I go see her. It does make a difference for tightness/mobility and I would recommend for you guys.

Manicures and pedicures? I cannot see myself....but if you want immaculate hands and feet, great. I'm a bit too caveman fo that
 

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I don’t like massages. I’ve gotten two.
Manicure. Had once. Too much trouble. I can do it myself. Same with pedicure.
Ideally, I’d get a facial once a month. For skin care, not for stress relief. Often too busy.
As an amusing ‘facial’ anecdote. I was talking with a coworker about skin care and sunscreen, as we were having a heat wave. I mentioned I might get a facial at the spa. She laughed and said she likes facials. But prefers to get them in the bedroom, not the spa.
 
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