do you guys ever feel like you always get what you dont want?

[garruk]

i dont know if you guys feel this way but I feel like the girls that I want to date, dont want to date me. the girls that want to date me, i dont want to date.

there was this girl who i really actively pursued for maybe 3 months. and right now i have her eating out of the palm of my hand and ive lost interest. i'm beginning to wonder what's wrong with me.


maybe im destined to be single and forever in the hunt.

anwyasy, its late and im just blabbering on. let me know if you guys have any input or similar stories and experiences.

 

[garruk]

wierd analogy but when I was applying to colleges back in the day, I sort of felt the same way about this.

kids applying to ucla as their first choice, never got in and ended up at some other school. kids applying with their first choice to stanford or harvard got into ucla but not their first choice. with the end result that very few people are truly ecstatic about where they got into school. sucks that very few people get exactly what they want.


but shoot for the stars.. land on the moon right?

 

[zekko]

If you're a 7 and go for a 9, you might be able to get a one night stand with her but it's very unlikely that you will be able to keep her. It's all about value. Now how you define value is up to you. There are some here who maintain that "game" alone determines your value, that if you have good game that makes you a 10 or whatever. I'm a little dubious about that, but if that's how you define it, okay. Just realize I am NOT talking about looks, and only looks.

So if you look at it that way, yeah, probably that one girl you wanted the most, that 9.8, yeah you probably won't be able to keep her as your permanant love slave. But as a very old band the Rolling Stones used to say, you can't always get what you want, but you get what you need. If you're a 7, you may very well get an 8, or at least another 7.

 

[Uberguy]

there was this girl who i really actively pursued for maybe 3 months. and right now i have her eating out of the palm of my hand and ive lost interest. i'm beginning to wonder what's wrong with me.

Sounds like you're more interested in the chase than the prize. Is this a trend? Do you often lose interest the moment she becomes interested? It might be that you feel like you only want the unattainable, so once you attain a girl, she seems like less of a prize.

It's like that old line from Groucho Marx: "I wouldn't want to join a club that would have someone like me as a member."

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

The paradox of desire.

 

[garruk]

The paradox of desire.

very true. recently, i thought that girl might have moved on to some other guy, i totally started obsessing about her again. right now, i know she's mine again and im losing interest again.


this is ridiculous! hah

 

[garruk]

The paradox of desire.

very true. recently, i thought that girl might have moved on to some other guy, i totally started obsessing about her again. right now, i know she's mine again and im losing interest again.


this is ridiculous! hah

 

[EvilAgenda]

double post, delete please

 

[EvilAgenda]

The paradox of desire.

The less you can have something, the more you want it.