LTRs = Long Term Relationships...I'd like to hear your personal opinions, not the general DJ/Red Pill stuff on LTRs.
I ask because I'm in my second one in the past several years. The previous one was my marriage. Both women are/were fine specimens if you will. Sure they have their little issues and imperfections, but overall I haven't dated women with your typical major red flags. In fact I've had great frame and been treated quite well.
Yet in both I feel really restless and oftentimes uncomfortable. The one I'm in now is not a live-in situation so I get my time away. (We do work at the same place though - I know that's a big no-no around here, but that part hasn't been a problem.) Sometimes I feel like this restlessness has made me irritable around them. I get tired of questions and explaining things and just want to be alone. (I used to have the same feeling as a teenager in my parents' house.) Also, my GF and my ex share a jealous streak in common. It's definitely good to know they're mate-guarding and such, but sometimes it's just exasperating. When I get irritable, it of course makes her self-conscious, which isn't good either.
I'm starting to wonder if I'm just not LTR material - for my sake. The irony is it makes me seem detached, which makes them want to lock me down. Or it could be that I'm just not in the right one. I'm beginning to think the myth of "the one" is more truth than we think...that maybe there are very few people with whom we really click as individuals. I'm not saying I need a LTR - I don't. But I find it very hard to relax and enjoy one. What about you guys?
I ask because I'm in my second one in the past several years. The previous one was my marriage. Both women are/were fine specimens if you will. Sure they have their little issues and imperfections, but overall I haven't dated women with your typical major red flags. In fact I've had great frame and been treated quite well.
Yet in both I feel really restless and oftentimes uncomfortable. The one I'm in now is not a live-in situation so I get my time away. (We do work at the same place though - I know that's a big no-no around here, but that part hasn't been a problem.) Sometimes I feel like this restlessness has made me irritable around them. I get tired of questions and explaining things and just want to be alone. (I used to have the same feeling as a teenager in my parents' house.) Also, my GF and my ex share a jealous streak in common. It's definitely good to know they're mate-guarding and such, but sometimes it's just exasperating. When I get irritable, it of course makes her self-conscious, which isn't good either.
I'm starting to wonder if I'm just not LTR material - for my sake. The irony is it makes me seem detached, which makes them want to lock me down. Or it could be that I'm just not in the right one. I'm beginning to think the myth of "the one" is more truth than we think...that maybe there are very few people with whom we really click as individuals. I'm not saying I need a LTR - I don't. But I find it very hard to relax and enjoy one. What about you guys?