"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Do you find most of the tips at this site to be bullsh1t?

Do you find this site to have alot of bullsh1tting tips?

  • Yes

    Votes: 19 35.8%
  • No

    Votes: 32 60.4%
  • I'm new to this site so i don't know

    Votes: 2 3.8%

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Peace man. Sorry if i was out of line.

It sounds like you've improved yourself a lot. Thats great that you've doubled your dating :)

But can you put it down to just becoming more confident in yourself and being with women, rather than just what you read on a website? It obviously gave you some outlines, but the rest you did yourself.

I just feel some things that i see on this board give people the impression that its not worth approaching 99% of girls. And for people who already have trouble approaching girls, this really isnt going to help them.

Take it easy.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Re: Your answer no chump

As I said before, it's possible to use this site to increase self-confidence and improve your dating life, although change still has to come from within. And like the person above said, your romantic situation improving might be simply due to increased confidence, not mastery of some DJ trick. Anyway, guess we'll have to agree to disagree. I'm outta here before somebody else decides to come in and flame my 'female' opinion. I don't have the energy for another argument. :)
 

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Articles helped more than anything

It wasn't completely this website, but the articles exposed me to thinking I thought was out there, but really hadn't been written anywhere. Some of the articles, one I can't remember what it's called, but written by Allen Thompson, had a profound affect on me.

It talked about not having your emotions move up and down in relation to how a woman reacts to you, positively or negatively. It's in the Hall of Fame. Also, the "Don't Just Be Yourself" was an eye-opener.

The message board frankly is for my amusement and to see what other guys are doing. I've gained the most by reading the articles and DJ Bible.

Thanks for your responses.
 
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Well, Slashco ...

... that confidence didn't come out of thin air. There was a direct coorelation from me reading the ARTICLES (not tips or tricks -- when are you going to READ this, please?!) to improving my confidence and dating.

I was kind of stumbling along, dating here and there, but I read a lot of the articles and DJ Bible one week and realized that hey, the sun doesn't rise and set on any one girl's a$$. I was an AFC to the core. The articles helped tremendously, not a technique.

Slashco, for the 100th millionth time, please read the articles and DJ bible that don't focus on tips and techniques, but building self-confidence.

I'm not sure why that is lost on you, but I guess because it's lost on so many here. Read the articles dealing with DJ PHILOSOPHY not the ones about techniques. Tips and techniques only are successful after you've read and developed DJ philosophy.

You still don't understand DJism Slashco, and I'm not sure why.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Erm... I've been saying from the very beginning that the articles which deal with self-confidence and such are useful. The DJ 'philosophy' insofar as it deals with the above is also useful (although the parts making huge generalizations about the nature of women and whatnot have a much higher BS content). But basically you just agreed with me, so I'm not sure why you're continuing to argue. Look up 'straw man fallacy' sometime. :p
 

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yes tactic but I REALLY like my new name:D :D LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL
 

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Have you guys read Ross Jeffrie's articles? What can you say about them? I can paste one from him that i got from his newsletter.
 

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Indeed, I think most tips here are crap. The way I see this site is as a pile of horsesh*t, with a few veins of golddust running through it.

You have to dig through a lot of sh*t to find the gold.

And in the end, you realise it's the digging that's important.
 

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nice one about gold digging
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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