"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Do you feel ashamed by going out on your own?

Poonani Maker

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You know how people (in groups) Immediately think they're better than you when you're out alone. I like to reverse the psychology then and there, by showing that it takes a REAL man (without dead weight) to venture out on my own, in search of pvssy.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Alkali

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I don't see either side as superior. But there are certain places you don't want to be alone at. Like the movie theatres, it would be weird for someone to ask "Who're you here with?" and say, "Nah, here by myself, I wanted to see Saw 4!"
 

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Supuriority mentality is never a good thing to imagin in this aspects of situations. As stated above, there are places you'd be better off going solo and enjoying yourself than going in group. Similarly, there are places you'd be miserable going solo. So it all depends on the occassion and the location.
 

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Poonani Maker said:
You know how people (in groups) Immediately think they're better than you when you're out alone. I like to reverse the psychology then and there, by showing that it takes a REAL man (without dead weight) to venture out on my own, in search of pvssy.
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It does take a strong mentality to go out on your own! I'm sure the women would be impressed as long as you present it in a positive way instead of coming across as somebody with no mates.

Another advantage is you have to meet new people instead of staying in the group all night...
 

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When I'm out alone I have noticed that groups tend to view me as lower value cause I'm being a "Loner" or something...

But thats irrelevant, If they talked with me I change perceptions around. When I'm out alone it truly is by choice. I like Solo-game.

but, yes. I have noticed that at first they will try and look down on you. Social Conditioning, They honestly cannot comprehend such a task.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Blackmm

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I would often just tell them that I met up with friends, but they're scattered (in a club venue).
 

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I actually recommend going out alone, it builds character and because you always end up on some crazy adventure.

I personally ALWAYS go out alone unless some friends call me up to roll with them. There is nothing wrong with rolling by yourself. Also no one really notices that your by yourself because if your like me your usually interacting with people so it just looks like your with the group.

But I think its alittle lame to not go places because your all alone...such as clubs, parties, movies, etc. Also its lame thinking the people in groups are superior or you being alone makes you superior.

It's rare I ever went sarging and had people with me. I tend to only do those massive sarges when I'm by myself and with friends or family I'll just interact with a few people here and there.
 

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I feel sort of ashamed to go out alone, you sort of looked down upon because your alone. It's not necessarily a good feeling. Some people like to do things by themselves. I don't really hang out with people.
 

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Its good to go out alone..because you force yourself to be social. If you really check out the club, you see people in groups not socializing with anyone else but the people in their circle...they appear to be having fun but theyre really not. Thats lame man, put yourself out there and talk to new people!
 

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takes heart to venture alone, depends on location etc. personally i wouldnt like going alone but if i feel i need to nothing would stop me. after all the only person you can really depend on is yourself.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Fuglydude

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I think going out to clubs by yourself is a great way to meet women.

Just go out and dance by yourself. You'll get tons of IOIs...if I was single this would be a primary avenue for me to meet/hook up w/ women.
 

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there's no shame in solitude
 
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