You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I am single and this has happened to me also. My favorite grocery store here in H-Town is HEB. I actually meet a very attractive woman at HEB about a year ago. She approached me. We started dating for a while, but it didn't last.I’m not single but if I were, I absolutely would considering I’ve several times had women start conversations with me and show IOI while shopping.
When I was young I fumbled with some of the most flagrant IOI’s.I am single and this has happened to me also. My favorite grocery store here in H-Town is HEB. I actually meet a very attractive woman at HEB about a year ago. She approached me. We started dating for a while, but it didn't last.
I have also "missed" opportunities to meet attractive women because I was not prepared to approach. For this type of approach to work I learned that you have to be ready.
HEB operates an upscale grocery concept called Central Market that it intended to compete with Whole Foods. It only has 10 locations. Do you ever go to Central Market? There is only one Houston location. There are 6 Central Markets in Dallas - Fort Worth. 3 are in Dallas, 1 in Fort Worth, 1 in Plano, and 1 in Southlake.My favorite grocery store here in H-Town is HEB. I actually meet a very attractive woman at HEB about a year ago.
High end grocery stores are superb places to meet high-quality people, beautiful, classy women includedI was watching this, and it got me interested:
And of course, there is the classic grocery pickup scene:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I find her response perfectly normal ... and keep in mind it is coming from a Tik Toker who admits she carries plenty of baggage. I can only imagine what kind of low quality woman would fall for a cheesy PUA line in a grocery store.The woman at the 8:05 point in the video he linked is probably most indicative of the typical female at Whole Foods. In my city, I've never seen any women who seem to be actively boyfriend and husband hunting at Whole Foods.
Yeah, it's NOT flattering. It's not insulting either, it's not anything.I can only imagine what kind of low quality woman would fall for a cheesy PUA line in a grocery store.![]()
Yes I do go to central market. It’s in River Oaks. I have family that lives fairly close to there. The H-E-B closest to me is in Meyerland, and it is fairly high scale. I live a few miles south of there.HEB operates an upscale grocery concept called Central Market that it intended to compete with Whole Foods. It only has 10 locations. Do you ever go to Central Market? There is only one Houston location. There are 6 Central Markets in Dallas - Fort Worth. 3 are in Dallas, 1 in Fort Worth, 1 in Plano, and 1 in Southlake.
HEB is more along the lines of a Kroger or Albertsons chain store. In Houston, you have Randalls, which is an Albertsons owned brand.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Same here.When I was young I fumbled with some of the most flagrant IOI’s.
Cold approaching is anti-social.Yeah, it's NOT flattering. It's not insulting either, it's not anything.
The guys doing it are practicing their 'Day Game' per Roosh, with a big fat G.
Some women mistakenly believe he's singled her out, that she must be "special" - more beautiful, more extraordinary than other women - such women are delusional imo.
He's simply out Gaming for the day, most savvy women know this.
Now if she had given him a 'window,' some sort of IOI as I've done before he approached or asked for her number, that would be entirely different.
But the guys who boldly approach random women, out shopping or doing their thing minding their own business?
Nothing flattering about that in the least and I just keep walking....
$.02.
Why????Cold approaching is anti-social.
San Francisco is filled with homeless people. This seems typical for San Francisco.In SF. The ‘singles’ grocery store was the Marina Safeway. Until a homeless guy took a dump on the floor.
I can only imagine what kind of low quality woman would fall for a cheesy PUA line in a grocery store.![]()
I have done many grocery store approaches. I've never used a cheesy PUA line or gotten rejected harshly. Most interactions have involved a short lasting conversation that goes nowhere. It does not result in an offer to get together being made. It isn't much of anything other than two human beings having a meaningless interaction. I do these approaches in a socially calibrated manner.,it's NOT flattering. It's not insulting either, it's not anything.
The guys doing it are practicing their 'Day Game' per Roosh, with a big fat G.
I have been complimented by women for approaching them in non-bar venues. They've expressed positive feelings about meeting someone in such an unexpected way. It is because I made the interaction look completely natural.Some women mistakenly believe he's singled her out, that she must be "special" - more beautiful, more extraordinary than other women - such women are delusional imo.
He's simply out Gaming for the day, most savvy women know this.
I agree that this would be different. This rarely happens for most men. The majority of my non-bar approaches have been without a strong IOI like this. It is an ideal scenario when a strong IOI is shown. I'm most excited to make the approaches involving a strong IOI first.Now if she had given him a 'window,' some sort of IOI as I've done before he approached or asked for her number, that would be entirely different.
This is more typical of non-bar approaches in any non-bar venue. I try to make my approaches look as non-interruptive and as natural as possible. I've rarely ever encountered anyone who just kept walking. Looks > personality. Reasonably good looking men will not experience harsh rejections in typical non-bar approaches, even without a great opening line. The approaches might not amount to much as I described earlier in this response. Top-tier or 'Chad' tier men are more likely to get more positive responses in non-bar approaching.the guys who boldly approach random women, out shopping or doing their thing minding their own business?
Nothing flattering about that in the least and I just keep walking....
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.