Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I am single and this has happened to me also. My favorite grocery store here in H-Town is HEB. I actually meet a very attractive woman at HEB about a year ago. She approached me. We started dating for a while, but it didn't last.I’m not single but if I were, I absolutely would considering I’ve several times had women start conversations with me and show IOI while shopping.
When I was young I fumbled with some of the most flagrant IOI’s.I am single and this has happened to me also. My favorite grocery store here in H-Town is HEB. I actually meet a very attractive woman at HEB about a year ago. She approached me. We started dating for a while, but it didn't last.
I have also "missed" opportunities to meet attractive women because I was not prepared to approach. For this type of approach to work I learned that you have to be ready.
HEB operates an upscale grocery concept called Central Market that it intended to compete with Whole Foods. It only has 10 locations. Do you ever go to Central Market? There is only one Houston location. There are 6 Central Markets in Dallas - Fort Worth. 3 are in Dallas, 1 in Fort Worth, 1 in Plano, and 1 in Southlake.My favorite grocery store here in H-Town is HEB. I actually meet a very attractive woman at HEB about a year ago.
High end grocery stores are superb places to meet high-quality people, beautiful, classy women includedI was watching this, and it got me interested:
And of course, there is the classic grocery pickup scene:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I find her response perfectly normal ... and keep in mind it is coming from a Tik Toker who admits she carries plenty of baggage. I can only imagine what kind of low quality woman would fall for a cheesy PUA line in a grocery store.The woman at the 8:05 point in the video he linked is probably most indicative of the typical female at Whole Foods. In my city, I've never seen any women who seem to be actively boyfriend and husband hunting at Whole Foods.
Yeah, it's NOT flattering. It's not insulting either, it's not anything.I can only imagine what kind of low quality woman would fall for a cheesy PUA line in a grocery store.![]()
Yes I do go to central market. It’s in River Oaks. I have family that lives fairly close to there. The H-E-B closest to me is in Meyerland, and it is fairly high scale. I live a few miles south of there.HEB operates an upscale grocery concept called Central Market that it intended to compete with Whole Foods. It only has 10 locations. Do you ever go to Central Market? There is only one Houston location. There are 6 Central Markets in Dallas - Fort Worth. 3 are in Dallas, 1 in Fort Worth, 1 in Plano, and 1 in Southlake.
HEB is more along the lines of a Kroger or Albertsons chain store. In Houston, you have Randalls, which is an Albertsons owned brand.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Same here.When I was young I fumbled with some of the most flagrant IOI’s.
Cold approaching is anti-social.Yeah, it's NOT flattering. It's not insulting either, it's not anything.
The guys doing it are practicing their 'Day Game' per Roosh, with a big fat G.
Some women mistakenly believe he's singled her out, that she must be "special" - more beautiful, more extraordinary than other women - such women are delusional imo.
He's simply out Gaming for the day, most savvy women know this.
Now if she had given him a 'window,' some sort of IOI as I've done before he approached or asked for her number, that would be entirely different.
But the guys who boldly approach random women, out shopping or doing their thing minding their own business?
Nothing flattering about that in the least and I just keep walking....
$.02.
Why????Cold approaching is anti-social.
San Francisco is filled with homeless people. This seems typical for San Francisco.In SF. The ‘singles’ grocery store was the Marina Safeway. Until a homeless guy took a dump on the floor.
I can only imagine what kind of low quality woman would fall for a cheesy PUA line in a grocery store.![]()
I have done many grocery store approaches. I've never used a cheesy PUA line or gotten rejected harshly. Most interactions have involved a short lasting conversation that goes nowhere. It does not result in an offer to get together being made. It isn't much of anything other than two human beings having a meaningless interaction. I do these approaches in a socially calibrated manner.,it's NOT flattering. It's not insulting either, it's not anything.
The guys doing it are practicing their 'Day Game' per Roosh, with a big fat G.
I have been complimented by women for approaching them in non-bar venues. They've expressed positive feelings about meeting someone in such an unexpected way. It is because I made the interaction look completely natural.Some women mistakenly believe he's singled her out, that she must be "special" - more beautiful, more extraordinary than other women - such women are delusional imo.
He's simply out Gaming for the day, most savvy women know this.
I agree that this would be different. This rarely happens for most men. The majority of my non-bar approaches have been without a strong IOI like this. It is an ideal scenario when a strong IOI is shown. I'm most excited to make the approaches involving a strong IOI first.Now if she had given him a 'window,' some sort of IOI as I've done before he approached or asked for her number, that would be entirely different.
This is more typical of non-bar approaches in any non-bar venue. I try to make my approaches look as non-interruptive and as natural as possible. I've rarely ever encountered anyone who just kept walking. Looks > personality. Reasonably good looking men will not experience harsh rejections in typical non-bar approaches, even without a great opening line. The approaches might not amount to much as I described earlier in this response. Top-tier or 'Chad' tier men are more likely to get more positive responses in non-bar approaching.the guys who boldly approach random women, out shopping or doing their thing minding their own business?
Nothing flattering about that in the least and I just keep walking....
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.