"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Do you ever have girls Bother you?

Poonani Maker

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I've got 2 girls, one I've fvcked and one I haven't fvcked, texting or emailing me to meet them somewhere almost every week since mid-August. The one I've fvcked twice, I've basically just been sooo short with on texts back to her responding with messages like, "Can't" and "Sorry." I think that finally she got the message that she's bothering me, while at work, with another woman, with friends eating. I don't like being with the same woman for very long, especially her.

Now, the other one that I haven't fvcked, BECAUSE everytime I want to see her, it's too late, or she's too tired, or she's out of town, with her girlfriend today, whatever, but everytime she wants to see me, I'm with another woman, too tired, working, or it's too early. So she messages me again today, just like 2 weeks ago, just like the week before that, and the week before, and the week before. She calls me at 7:04 AM 2 Saturdays ago, I'm like I can't understand a word this b!tch is saying like Charlie Brown's teacher over the phone. I call her Late at night when I want to come over and I guess I sound like Charlie Brown's teacher to her and she's "too tired."

Why do some women just frolick and fvck around like that, like a pest or insect, never really intending to meet you, just fvcking with you?? I don't think I should respond to her latest message. Fine bodied, 28 yr old, brunette, who holds herself to be an intellectual, sophisticated, well-read, and I agree that she is, but why is she just hoovering around in my pysche but never DOING anything about it???? This has been going on for months fellas. What's up? WHY is she making sure I see her but not ever available for me to see her? MOST girls aren't like this. I don't really even want to fvck her, afterall I have steady plates and much younger ones, I might add. Why would I waste my time with one who's almost 30 and is playing hard to get? She knows I fvck other, younger, girls. Is she just trying to make herself appear more valuable to me by never ever actually going out with me?

Here is her Exact last message:

"Hope all is well with you. I wanted to plan to see you possibly Friday. Would getting together Friday night work for you? Sorry I'm not more available but this weekend I'm alone and left to my own devices. :)

Let me know. Hope to see you!"

I think she's psychotic. I keep saying, "Maybe This time she won't flake." I bet I've said that 5 times already in regard to her over the past 2 months.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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FutureSpartan

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Well if I were to look past your thinly veiled attempt at bragging, I would advise you to ignore her if she annoys you that much. Thats what most normal people do.
 

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FutureSpartan said:
Well if I were to look past your thinly veiled attempt at bragging, I would advise you to ignore her if she annoys you that much. Thats what most normal people do.
Haha! I like this.

And I have had a similar experience a long time ago. A girl used to flirt with me all the time and make all kinds of plans but is never available. I give her the kiss test which she failed, so I nexted her. She works with me and I have now chosen to be only professionally courteous to her.

Due to this experience though, I learned that it's a bad idea to game co-workers.
 
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