"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Do you ever have girls Bother you?

Poonani Maker

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I've got 2 girls, one I've fvcked and one I haven't fvcked, texting or emailing me to meet them somewhere almost every week since mid-August. The one I've fvcked twice, I've basically just been sooo short with on texts back to her responding with messages like, "Can't" and "Sorry." I think that finally she got the message that she's bothering me, while at work, with another woman, with friends eating. I don't like being with the same woman for very long, especially her.

Now, the other one that I haven't fvcked, BECAUSE everytime I want to see her, it's too late, or she's too tired, or she's out of town, with her girlfriend today, whatever, but everytime she wants to see me, I'm with another woman, too tired, working, or it's too early. So she messages me again today, just like 2 weeks ago, just like the week before that, and the week before, and the week before. She calls me at 7:04 AM 2 Saturdays ago, I'm like I can't understand a word this b!tch is saying like Charlie Brown's teacher over the phone. I call her Late at night when I want to come over and I guess I sound like Charlie Brown's teacher to her and she's "too tired."

Why do some women just frolick and fvck around like that, like a pest or insect, never really intending to meet you, just fvcking with you?? I don't think I should respond to her latest message. Fine bodied, 28 yr old, brunette, who holds herself to be an intellectual, sophisticated, well-read, and I agree that she is, but why is she just hoovering around in my pysche but never DOING anything about it???? This has been going on for months fellas. What's up? WHY is she making sure I see her but not ever available for me to see her? MOST girls aren't like this. I don't really even want to fvck her, afterall I have steady plates and much younger ones, I might add. Why would I waste my time with one who's almost 30 and is playing hard to get? She knows I fvck other, younger, girls. Is she just trying to make herself appear more valuable to me by never ever actually going out with me?

Here is her Exact last message:

"Hope all is well with you. I wanted to plan to see you possibly Friday. Would getting together Friday night work for you? Sorry I'm not more available but this weekend I'm alone and left to my own devices. :)

Let me know. Hope to see you!"

I think she's psychotic. I keep saying, "Maybe This time she won't flake." I bet I've said that 5 times already in regard to her over the past 2 months.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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FutureSpartan

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Well if I were to look past your thinly veiled attempt at bragging, I would advise you to ignore her if she annoys you that much. Thats what most normal people do.
 

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FutureSpartan said:
Well if I were to look past your thinly veiled attempt at bragging, I would advise you to ignore her if she annoys you that much. Thats what most normal people do.
Haha! I like this.

And I have had a similar experience a long time ago. A girl used to flirt with me all the time and make all kinds of plans but is never available. I give her the kiss test which she failed, so I nexted her. She works with me and I have now chosen to be only professionally courteous to her.

Due to this experience though, I learned that it's a bad idea to game co-workers.
 
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