"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Do you ever feel that you need to take a break from the game?

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I've recently been out of the game for a while (around 3 months). Even though I'm a new registered member here, I used to frequent this site daily in '03. I feel that I perfected my game by that period. I went to college in the beginning of '05 on and off (haven't graduated - procrastinated a lot) and am currently taking a break.

I moved to a new town -as a matter of fact, a new country all together-: United Arab Emirates 2 months ago, and since then I haven't really talked to many people or socialized much (I don't want to, I'm doing it by choice)

Within the period from '05 to end of '09 I've had my share of women, not to mention that I got deeply involved with drugs, partying, and most significantly, all my "friends" were criminals (drug dealers, gun sellers, pimps and even a couple of murderers who are currently serving time in prison) - Unfortunately, I was a criminal too. I've seen it all.

At the age of 22 (mid '08) I was broke. As a matter of fact, I was in debt (and I'm not talking about the type of creditors that mess up your creditreport.com), not to mention no job. I wanted to sell drugs and make big money, but I decided not to. Instead, I was well connected, so I decided to move to Seattle and I was hustling women. Had about 3 or 4 that I would always get cash from (no, I'm not a pimp), not to mention a few hip hop shows I did in my town that got me extra cash. I mention this because there is a DJ, and there is also a Hustler. I see people who can get broads any time they want, but I bet most of them can't go Mac Dre on their a$$es and get them to pay you to bang. But I'm leaving that game behind and currently focusing on bettering myself in other ways. I was rocking some of the most expensive clothes and cars, and I didn't even have a job or sell drugs. Money was stacking up regardless.

I decided the only way I can get out is by starting 100% fresh. Now I've been spending all my days reading, learning to program, eating healthy, working out and maintaining great relations with my family. I'm not feeling frustrated, I just don't have 'women' on my mind ATM, and I feel that for the next 6 months or so I will keep doing what I'm doing and then later go back to the field.

I have good game, and taking a break from it makes me step back from a lot of things that I've done and realize what I've done (good and bad) and make myself better that way. I think I reached a point in my life where I don't need any advice when it comes to women, I'm a true DJ. I noticed that for the last year that I came to this site on-and-off I always went straight to the "anything else" or "health forum," I don't think I've ever even made a single post in the DJ forum. I feel that most of the stuff said here is common sense to me, or that I have a different approach to it and am confident with the way I run my game.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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r0cky said:
Everyone is welcome to this forum so theres no need to qualify yourself to us.
Good luck!
I knew somebody was going to say that, and I'm predicting more to come... Including haters.

No, I'm not qualifying myself to anyone here. I couldn't care less what anybody here thinks of me. As a matter of fact, if you actually read my post at all and read between the lines a bit, you will see that I am moving on to another life style. For a reason. I'm not here bragging, if that's what you think.

I was merely asking if anyone took or is currently taking a break from women (hence, the title of my post) and their reasoning. I did that. Did you?


As a matter of fact, I don't want anybody to comment about anything I said. Just answer that question.

Stop acting like you got me figured out.
 

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San Jose California said:
Why must you call it "the game", instead of "women" like a complete nerd? It's sad I mean you're 23 not 18.
I knew somebody was going to say that, and I'm predicting more to come... Including haters.

No, but really, I called it game because to me I got involved in it deeper than just "cold approaches" or "sex" or whatnot. It was a game to me, and that's how I played it. Who cares what I called it? Read the context not the wording.

Also, if you read my entire post, you will see that I wasn't only talking about women.

So does that make me 18, not 23? Wow.
 
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aaronlava said:
You need to relax, He mean't noting of the sort about having you figured out in your post.

He was just saying your welcome here.

Chill out.
Yeah you're right. I misread it :eek: but also I'm not qualifying myself here, lol.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Yeah pretty much....

As in, I stopped deliberately going out with the intention of pulling girls. I came to realise I don't need to treat it like game, take much advice from people, learn new "tactics" etc. I kept getting girls even though I wasn't really "trying to" anymore. Know what I mean?

I stopped treating "getting girls" and trying to understand them as something I have to do. So I don't chase it anymore (especially relationships). And it works out better for me and I'm happier.
 
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