"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Do you ever feel that you need to take a break from the game?

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I've recently been out of the game for a while (around 3 months). Even though I'm a new registered member here, I used to frequent this site daily in '03. I feel that I perfected my game by that period. I went to college in the beginning of '05 on and off (haven't graduated - procrastinated a lot) and am currently taking a break.

I moved to a new town -as a matter of fact, a new country all together-: United Arab Emirates 2 months ago, and since then I haven't really talked to many people or socialized much (I don't want to, I'm doing it by choice)

Within the period from '05 to end of '09 I've had my share of women, not to mention that I got deeply involved with drugs, partying, and most significantly, all my "friends" were criminals (drug dealers, gun sellers, pimps and even a couple of murderers who are currently serving time in prison) - Unfortunately, I was a criminal too. I've seen it all.

At the age of 22 (mid '08) I was broke. As a matter of fact, I was in debt (and I'm not talking about the type of creditors that mess up your creditreport.com), not to mention no job. I wanted to sell drugs and make big money, but I decided not to. Instead, I was well connected, so I decided to move to Seattle and I was hustling women. Had about 3 or 4 that I would always get cash from (no, I'm not a pimp), not to mention a few hip hop shows I did in my town that got me extra cash. I mention this because there is a DJ, and there is also a Hustler. I see people who can get broads any time they want, but I bet most of them can't go Mac Dre on their a$$es and get them to pay you to bang. But I'm leaving that game behind and currently focusing on bettering myself in other ways. I was rocking some of the most expensive clothes and cars, and I didn't even have a job or sell drugs. Money was stacking up regardless.

I decided the only way I can get out is by starting 100% fresh. Now I've been spending all my days reading, learning to program, eating healthy, working out and maintaining great relations with my family. I'm not feeling frustrated, I just don't have 'women' on my mind ATM, and I feel that for the next 6 months or so I will keep doing what I'm doing and then later go back to the field.

I have good game, and taking a break from it makes me step back from a lot of things that I've done and realize what I've done (good and bad) and make myself better that way. I think I reached a point in my life where I don't need any advice when it comes to women, I'm a true DJ. I noticed that for the last year that I came to this site on-and-off I always went straight to the "anything else" or "health forum," I don't think I've ever even made a single post in the DJ forum. I feel that most of the stuff said here is common sense to me, or that I have a different approach to it and am confident with the way I run my game.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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r0cky said:
Everyone is welcome to this forum so theres no need to qualify yourself to us.
Good luck!
I knew somebody was going to say that, and I'm predicting more to come... Including haters.

No, I'm not qualifying myself to anyone here. I couldn't care less what anybody here thinks of me. As a matter of fact, if you actually read my post at all and read between the lines a bit, you will see that I am moving on to another life style. For a reason. I'm not here bragging, if that's what you think.

I was merely asking if anyone took or is currently taking a break from women (hence, the title of my post) and their reasoning. I did that. Did you?


As a matter of fact, I don't want anybody to comment about anything I said. Just answer that question.

Stop acting like you got me figured out.
 

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San Jose California said:
Why must you call it "the game", instead of "women" like a complete nerd? It's sad I mean you're 23 not 18.
I knew somebody was going to say that, and I'm predicting more to come... Including haters.

No, but really, I called it game because to me I got involved in it deeper than just "cold approaches" or "sex" or whatnot. It was a game to me, and that's how I played it. Who cares what I called it? Read the context not the wording.

Also, if you read my entire post, you will see that I wasn't only talking about women.

So does that make me 18, not 23? Wow.
 
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aaronlava said:
You need to relax, He mean't noting of the sort about having you figured out in your post.

He was just saying your welcome here.

Chill out.
Yeah you're right. I misread it :eek: but also I'm not qualifying myself here, lol.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yeah pretty much....

As in, I stopped deliberately going out with the intention of pulling girls. I came to realise I don't need to treat it like game, take much advice from people, learn new "tactics" etc. I kept getting girls even though I wasn't really "trying to" anymore. Know what I mean?

I stopped treating "getting girls" and trying to understand them as something I have to do. So I don't chase it anymore (especially relationships). And it works out better for me and I'm happier.
 
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