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Do you dudes avoid overweight chicks and why?

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Just wondering if you dudes avoid overweight chicks as in not choosing to talk to them in person, online etc. as if you feel they somehow are "below" you or not good for your egos sake.

Me? I'll talk to anyone. Why? Because I'm humble in aspects like that. It doesn't mean I HAVE to date them or they *Gasp* would ALL want to date me OR you. Some overweight chicks may even turn you or I down believe it or not. It's nothing to get upset over though I've noticed dudes automatically get defensive over some overweight chick or calling some chick "fat" or "not all that" to protect their ego. Talking/interacting with some chick who's overweight isn't going to kill you and help you to get comfortable around different chicks, just like talking to people of different nationalities etc.

It seems most are looking for the best looking chick to validate themselves to others and themselves while at the same time putting down other people as if they are "above" everyone else. Spoiled high maintenance princess like chicks do that.

Now I'm not saying that you should lower your standards or go after overweight chicks but just wondering how many of you interact with them or give them the time of day like you expect hot chicks to do to you?

I've gotten the feeling a lot of you dudes would run rather than be seen at a party with hot chicks talking to an overweight chick as if that would somehow be seen as a 'negative' towards how others would see you and you're approach to them.


Edit: There seems to be some confusion.

Do you interact with overweight women when you go out as in to bars, school, parties etc. or do you avoid them altogether as if they somehow lower your value. Meaning you aren't dating or ****ing them but just making small TALK with them as in JUST MET?
 
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I don't avoid them. If she's a little chunky but has DDD's I'm down. If she's fat, I'll pass.
 
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Boner test, if she makes me hard its ok yet the less she is flattering to the eye the lower is the bvllsh1t tolerance.

Sometime I see no point in dealing with average girls since they require the same work and the same value of the good looking ones, plus the chances of success are the same.

Its no longer the time of oldies suggesting to your teenage self to start with average girls cause they allow you more and require less than hotties.
 

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The411 said:
I've gotten the feeling a lot of you dudes would run rather than be seen at a party with hot chicks talking to an overweight chick as if that would somehow be seen as a 'negative' towards how others would see you and you're approach to them.
Absolutely bro. Nothing wrong with them, it's just society doesn't value them.

Call me short sighted or shallow but Id rather be seen with a girl who is a Nazi than one who is overweight. :rock:
 

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Would not want to be seen with a fat chick. Not to mention I wouldnt be able to get it up with her so what's the point
 

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Absolutely bro. Nothing wrong with them, it's just society doesn't value them.

Call me short sighted or shallow but Id rather be seen with a girl who is a Nazi than one who is overweight. :rock:
Its not the guys fault, girls are the first one to say "they have to accept you for who you are" to their friends then openly treat as losers those who do.

All this reputation and group ranking is women realm not men, we can joke to each other about that fatty which gave us head but we dont consider a guy less worth of esteem just because he is not banging models.

We avoid fat girls because hot girls avoid guys who go with fat girls otherwise their friends would shame them for going with a guy that "takes anything"...kinda contorted but it is.
 

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The nice thing about fat girls is that you can go to their house when you're hungry, and there will be food in the kitchen.
 

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In beta days, I wouldn't mind the chubby chick. But back then it was numbers thing for me and if I lost the fatty then I would get a new one next week or someone hotter. Point being, I was never settling.

These days, under no circumstances will I even date a fat chick. LGBF only. Being in shape takes commitment, self-respect, and shows good decision-making skills.

If you can't even muster the energy to go to the gym and work out for a measly 30 minutes, how on earth do handle other commitments or anything else "important" in your life? Your health is one of the most valuable things you possess, to squander it is truly sad.

Fat girls have a ton of issues. Laziness, depression, desperate behavior, low self-esteem, no self-control, and they project these problems on to you.

Ever watch the Biggest Loser and see how broken these people are? They HATE themselves.

Sorry to be shallow and judge by appearances, but I have NEVER met a fat girl who didn't have a serious problem. I work hard to maintain my physique, I would expect my partner to do the same at least as a token of respect.
 

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Do you dudes understand how to be socially attractive? You make friends and those friend introduce you to other friends? Or are you a fvcking retard who approaches women to get rejected only to call it a night? Think smart, not stupid.

The thread is about INTERACTING with a chick who's overweight or chicks who are. Maybe in a club, party, school, etc. NOT having to "Fvck" one.
 

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Strange, I know The411 is a thin man, but yet, my fat girl detectors are going off.

The411 said:
Do you dudes understand how to be socially attractive?
Yes, you show up with the hottest girl, not the fattest girl.

Regarding how hot they must be, Who Dares Win is right, it truly is about whether they turn you on or not, but ideally you will only be turned on by truly attractive women. Otherwise, it's a sign that your mom wasn't that hot, IMO.

Fat women = poor genes and/or poor diet = chemo ward at age 45.
 

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You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

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Trump said:
Absolutely bro. Nothing wrong with them, it's just society doesn't value them.

Call me short sighted or shallow but Id rather be seen with a girl who is a Nazi than one who is overweight. :rock:
Trump said:
Absolutely bro. Nothing wrong with them, it's just society doesn't value them.

Call me short sighted or shallow but Id rather be seen with a girl who is a Nazi than one who is overweight. :rock:
And you also avoid being seen with other men as people would think you're a f$g?

Or black people? Because people would think you're a lowlife?

Or a chick with short hair because they might think you're friends with a dyke?

Would you turn down a lucrative job offer because the interviewer was some overweight chick?



bigneil said:
Strange, I know The411 is a thin man, but yet, my fat girl detectors are going off.


Yes, you show up with the hottest girl, not the fattest girl.

Regarding how hot they must be, Who Dares Win is right, it truly is about whether they turn you on or not, but ideally you will only be turned on by truly attractive women. Otherwise, it's a sign that your mom wasn't that hot, IMO.

Fat women = poor genes and/or poor diet = chemo ward at age 45.
So you just assume a "fat girl" must be the O.P. as some insecure ego self-protecting spin?

Simple question: Do you dudes interact with overweight chicks when you go out. As in not "dating or fvcking" them. Just literally meeting one and making small talk. Or do you avoid them altogether as if being even seen talking to a fat chick somehow lowers your value in the eyes of others?
 

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bigneil said:
Strange, I know The411 is a thin man, but yet, my fat girl detectors are going off.


Yes, you show up with the hottest girl, not the fattest girl.

Regarding how hot they must be, Who Dares Win is right, it truly is about whether they turn you on or not, but ideally you will only be turned on by truly attractive women. Otherwise, it's a sign that your mom wasn't that hot, IMO.

Fat women = poor genes and/or poor diet = chemo ward at age 45.
Lmao best response I have seen
 

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The411 said:
And you also avoid being seen with other men as people would think you're a f$g?

Or black people? Because people would think you're a lowlife?

Or a chick with short hair because they might think you're friends with a dyke?

Would you turn down a lucrative job offer because the interviewer was some overweight chick?
Society is OK with those things. Overweight is where they draw the line.

For me, whatever society values and spends their money on, I value. If they valued overweight older women, I would value overweight older women. If they value black people, I value black value.

Don't make the rules, just go with the flow. :woo:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Trump said:
Society is OK with those things. Overweight is where they draw the line.

For me, whatever society values and spends their money on, I value. If they valued overweight older women, I would value overweight older women. If they value black people, I value black value.

Don't make the rules, just go with the flow. :woo:
So basically you're an unquestioning sheep who wants to be like everyone else. Sweet life man.
 

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I'm polite to anyone including fat chicks as long as they are polite in return. I'm not shallow like women are.

But, I generally don't find fat women to be necessarily more friendly than thinner women. Some are even more nasty and actually consider me more of a "target" for their put downs than better looking women. The only female in my social circle that talks down to me (to my face) is fat.

Anyway, if a fat female is polite to me, we get along fine. But if she talks down to me, she can go F herself.
 

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They're absolutely fantastic to get you in a social mood in the very beginning of a night out. I won't fvck them simply because I don't respond to them sexually, but for small talk? Sure, they can be downright awesome.
 

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Who Dares Win said:
Boner test, if she makes me hard its ok yet the less she is flattering to the eye the lower is the bvllsh1t tolerance.
I do ^^ THIS ^^


The ex I just dumped a few months ago is about 5'7, 120 lbs, thin little blond and yet I have zero attraction for her now after the last bout of cr@p she tried to pul..l. No standing soldier for her even if she was standing right here naked as a jaybird.

The chick I just went out with yesterday is about 5'9, 200 lbs, cute little redhead. And the soldier was ready.


Attraction is what it is... You are either attracted or you are not. It's easiest to just let nature handle it than to try and say "I will date HER but won't date HER".
 

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Yes because I've worked really hard to be in great shape and want someone else that takes care of themselves also.

I also am not attracted to fat women at all...I don't want to see that flopping around when they are naked...I'm to the point even some average weight women turn.me off when I see them naked...I like fit chicks...
 

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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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