Do you discuss your personal life with your friends?

[Marko]

Should be a straightforward question for all you guys on here: do you discuss your personal life with your friends?

Earlier this week one of my friends was nagging me to go to some club with him this weekend and I got fed up and told him "no, I'm meeting (girl's name) that night." He and the other friends we were with were all sort of surprised that I had never mentioned this girl that I was seeing.

It just seems to me that my life is not a soap opera and I don't need to broadcast what I do to everyone, friends or not. But because people were surprised that I'd been "hiding" this (their words) I'm kind of curious, what is the norm among other guys. Are you gossipping around the water cooler about your dates etc., or are friendship and drama mutually exclusive in your life as in mine?

 

[Fatality]

I only have two friends but they are true friends unlike most people who claim to have alot of friends when in reality most are just acqauintances. I talk to them about everything because we all know we will listen to each other and give advice without any of us feeling embarrassed about anything. That's how you know if they are true friends so yeah I do discuss my personal life with them but not with my acqauintances.

 

[ScrewIt]

I too have 2 close friends, one that i never hang out with cause he's anti-social and likes to be home, so i usually talk to him online.

And another one that i usually hang out iwth weekly.

I usually tell them stuff that goes on in life, girls? well not really, they will either get jealous or have nothing to say about it. since theyve never had a gf in their lives.

i guess i'll talk to them about anything with the exception of girls.

or maybe i should just get some new & better friends...

 

[Yotsuya-san]

Originally posted by Fatality
I only have two friends but they are true friends unlike most people who claim to have alot of friends when in reality most are just acqauintances. I talk to them about everything because we all know we will listen to each other and give advice without any of us feeling embarrassed about anything. That's how you know if they are true friends so yeah I do discuss my personal life with them but not with my acqauintances.

Agreed! by your definition, student and professional colleagues can also fall under the aquaintance category. I have a lot of colleagues who I know through mostly my profession and educational background but all of the close friends I have are NOT in my profession. For one thing, it avoids workplace gossip! And also, you don't have to deal with "know-it-alls" (common in my profession, unfortunately) that are going to be trying telling you how to run your life especially when they haven't been there. Most of my close friends have had the same troubles I have and have been down the same roads.

 

[Julian]

Only with a select few.

Most of the people i know are haters.