"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Do you cold approach in the day?

Do you cold approach?

  • Yes

    Votes: 7 46.7%
  • No, but want to

    Votes: 3 20.0%
  • No, but used to

    Votes: 2 13.3%
  • No, never

    Votes: 3 20.0%

  • Total voters
    15

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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skinnyguy

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I can see why it works for some guys, it just doesn't work for me. Since I have no social value when I cold approach I get shut down 100% of the time. On the other hand I can get numbers through meetup events without even trying.
 

Don-Kong

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It only doesn't work because of lack of preparation and practice.
I've lost count of the rejections I've had from chicks in coffee shops. So what.
You will fail. And some. But then, one day you do it for the rush and boom!
I've not needed to do it for a while tho, might get back at it and lend some insights and failures lol
 

TheGambino

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I only do cold approaches at day when Im dressed up well, not if im coming back from work or so. My night game is much much better since im a good dancer and the girls are more loosen up. You can kino and escalate way better in a club make eye contact - laugh - approach ask a few questions, kino and if you feel shes interested, dance and kiss close.

Daygame is small talk and a number close, I mostly want instant action
 

Mr Wright

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From my experience, you meet a better quality of girl during the day. I go out on random nights during the week sometimes but who wants to date someone who goes out clubbing on a Wednesday or Thursday?

I love approaching during the day, I enjoy it more, you can build better connections and the girls seem to like it more. It's a great skill to have.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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