"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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do you buy gift for your girlfriend?

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Christmas is coming up, what are you guys planning to do with your girlfriend? Also, is it chode to buy your girlfriend inexpensive gift. My gf got me a cake for my bday, and I didn't get her anything for her bday I felt bad, haha. so, I'm thinking of getting her something small for Christmas to make it up to her, but I know buying gifts for your gf is frown upon in the community.
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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i got my chick sox and a water bottle for her birthday


she got me a ps4 and 300$ watch neither of which i asked for or even wanted...even told her to return. oh well.


I told everyone im not buying **** for xmas this year and I dont want **** for xmas this year

if you have a serious GF one thing I would buy her is a moderately priced but expensive looking piece of jewelery...a necklace, ring etc. Something she feels a connection with you with and would mean alot. i call this a charm item. And pretty much thats all ill ever buy her.it will be special, hold meaning and value to her.
^this doesnt mean it has to be for an occasion...infact its better if its spontaenous/random
 

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Don't buy her anything expensive. You end where you start. When I was with the mother of my son for the first Christmas I bought her a purse and Pandora. It cost me close to 400$. Next Christmas she wanted something similarly priced. So glad she's gone for this Christmas lol

Julian had a great suggestion.
 

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I think it depends on what she is used to. My ex always got crappy stuff from her x husband. I bought her some 100 dollar gold earrings for Christmas and could tell something was off. I think I was downgraded for spending a small amount of money. If a woman is used to being treated like **** that is what she expects. If you do something a little better than what she is used to you are seen as lower value.
 

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I'm buying her a day at a spa as a combined christmas and bday gift, her bday is 10 days before christmas. It's a bit expensive, but she deserves it for being very undemanding. She bought clothes, a beer glass, a beer (exclusive type), bought me dinner and denied me to pay for anything on my bday.

She explicitly told me not to buy any type of jewelery as she doesn't wear it, so a day at a spa it is. I'm sure she's gonna love it.

Buying gifts for your girlfriend isn't wrong, what may have given you that impression on here are the discussions about buying gifts for undeserving girlfriends.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I told mine not to get me anything, but she got all whiny "but it's our first Christmas together!!!" I said fine, get me something cheap. I have a couple of things in mind for her, won't cost me more than $30. I've only been with her for six months, so jewellery is out of the question.
 

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For christmas my girl and I each contribute 100 bucks to the "travel fund." Same with the anniversary, valentine's day, and birthdays.
 
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