Do you believe in Fate?

[AlphaSoldier]

Context: I met this chick at work 18 months ago, then moved to another building, 4 months ago went back to her building, boom, she becomes my 1-itis obsession. Aside from crossing in the elevator or the hallway, we haven't had any direct interaction as we work in different teams.

Point is, I have run into this chick more than once outside of the workplace. I bumped into her once in a shop, in a restaurant... we live about 10 miles apart, her town is bigger than mine, no reason for her to be in my town.

I have tried to overcome my 1-itis, I recognize is not mentally healthy to keep this obsession, keeping my mind busy with something else, etc.

In the past months without being too creepy, I figured out what car she drives and memorized her license plate. So I am out there all the time looking out for white BMW X1s, the car she drives.

This morning I went for my Sunday morning 5-mile walk. I usually take a road in the middle of nowhere with almost no traffic. My mind was focused on something completely different when.... boom, a white BMW X1 comes from behind, I read the plate, fvck, it's her.

So, in a nutshell, whenever I try to forget her, she jumps into my life out of nowhere, in the middle of nowhere..

Maybe it's randomness, maybe it's fate. I don't know. These mind games are not very constructive either.

What do you think guys? Do you believe in Fate? Is it trying to tell me something? Or the entire thing is just a mind game? Has it happened to you? How did it end?

PS/ as an alpha, I know I should try to approach her at work, but I have decided against it for many reasons.

 

[RickTheToad]

No. Fate doesn't exist, only opportunities.

 

[Tilex]

It's not fate because you're putting all your energy and focus into one person, and that's why you keep bumping into them and believing it's fate.
Some of your behavioral traits seem kind of stalkerish in my opinion.
How do people remember license plates of all things? I can't even remember my own.

 

[backseatjuan]

PS/ as an alpha, I know

You are not alpha, stop tripping.

 

[IKO69]

I sorta treat it that way I guess. I just go out and do my thing and if I meet a woman who is interested and is giving me the signals, great. Whether it exists or it doesn't they gush when you tell them that sorta **** though if they are interested.

 

[RickTheToad]

Don't sh!t where you eat. Why do people post threads like this when they know they shouldn't date or fvck a lady from work? Are you looking for something bad to happen?