"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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do you believe in a soul mate?

godjwood

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do you beleive there is one person meant for you? i know most of you will say no.
my issue is, i did beleive in one, then it didnt work out with that girl. i feel like if i ever fall in love with another girl, i wouldnt genuinely love her.
similarly, i feel like if a girl has been in love with guy(s) before me, she cant have genuine love for me, i am just another guy that she is compatible with.
has anyone else ever faced this problem and what did they do about it?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Warboss Alex

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godjwood said:
do you beleive there is one person meant for you? i know most of you will say no.
my issue is, i did beleive in one, then it didnt work out with that girl. i feel like if i ever fall in love with another girl, i wouldnt genuinely love her.
similarly, i feel like if a girl has been in love with guy(s) before me, she cant have genuine love for me, i am just another guy that she is compatible with.
has anyone else ever faced this problem and what did they do about it?
yes, I do, because I found mine some years ago. :)

I believe in soulmates, and I don't believe you've found yours yet. When you meet your true soulmate you'll know..

and if a girl was truly in love with a guy, regardless of what she says, she would have stayed with him. being in love has to be mutual, otherwise it's just infatuation. so don't worry about .. :) your girl is out there, and you'll be the only one she's ever loved (truly).
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Try adjusting your premise that there is such a thing as a single soul mate, there's a potential that there are numerous women out there who could become your soul mate. No one has ever said that each person could only have one soul mate and definitely no one has ever said that the first person a person comes across in a meaningful relationship is their soul mate nor detracts them from finding another.
 

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i believe in soulmates. a soulmate is somebody that has the same interests as you. they are somebody that can connect with you and know what your thinking about, without you having to say it. they always compliment you and accept you for you. when the sh*t hits the fan and ships going down and they would go down with you. that is a soulmate. i have had many women run at the first sign of trouble yet this girl that i have been with for 5 years has weathered the storm with me with no hesitation to run. that is what many refer to as the one.
 

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I believe eventually your going to find the one. It might be when you least expect it and there are many people you might think is the one. But one is going to shine through all the others. The one is going to love you just as much as you love them.. The games and **** will all be shut out, it will be real love.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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