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Do you assume interest between dates?

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If you ask a girl out on dates and she constantly accepts them, do you assume she's interested in you?

Ive been on three dates and went in for the kiss and before i reached her lips she kissed me so passionately that she almost took my bottom lip lol. No but she seemed like she was waiting for the kiss forever because i leaned in and she pretty much met me. During the dates, she does a lot of future talk and the dates go really well, very engaging conversation, teasing, and flirting. She paid once when we went out to eat and has spoken about taking me to this expensive restaurant and said it was her treat.

Cutting to the chase, we pretty much have NC between dates, I contact her to go out on another date and she accepts and we plan it out a few days in advance. Our frequency is about 1 date per week.

My main thing is just because she agrees to go out with me, I don't want to think that its a done deal. All the signs seem to be positive imho but the more i invest the more my mind begins the play games with me. I'd be completely fine with NC what so ever in between our dates until i went in for the kiss. I guess that's what happens because you become emotionally invested with every intimate act.

I shouldn't worry right? It's all in my head I'm trying to tell myself. I may just be overthinking. Thanks anyways for the input guys.
 

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GotED? said:
WTF?......... sh!t on here just gets worse and worse....

She is showing HIGH interest, enjoy the ride and don't self sabotage it with your low self esteem and poor confidence/inner game.

Exodus
What i wanted to know. I apologize that you have to constantly go through "stupid" post but now i know it isnt the situation it's my inner game i need to work on. I appreciate your response though. It's just the whole NC thing between dates i need to get over but i guess works in my favor in the long run.
 

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There is no one single rule that magically works for all women.

If you have gone out after a few dates, she SHOULD start to actively chase you (texts you, calls you, more inputs to future dates, expressing her feelings, etc). It sounds like you may need to ramp up the physical escalation a bit more.

You are doing EXACTLY the correct thing - making yourself SCARCE in between dates so she MISSES you and RETAIN the high interest. However, later on - she's going to want more intimacy both emotionally, mentally, and physically. Make sure you FOLLOW her pace (IF you decide she is worth your time and energy) and never exceed her level of investment.

You are the PRIZE and a DJ must make the woman PROVE HERSELF to you that she's worth your attention.

Again, no hard fast rule but never show more interest or feelings than the woman. This is a poker game and you must never reveal your true hand, my friend. When you do - you lose the entire GAME.

Good luck

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GotED? said:
There is no one single rule that magically works for all women.

If you have gone out after a few dates, she ULD start to actively chase you (texts you, calls you, more inputs to future dates, expressing her feelings, etc). It sounds like you may need to ramp up the physical escalation a bit more.

You are doing EXACTLY the correct thing - making yourself SCARCE in between dates so she MISSES you and RETAIN the high interest. However, later on - she's going to want more intimacy both emotionally, mentally, and physically. Make sure you FOLLOW her pace (IF you decide she is worth your time and energy) and never exceed her level of investment.

You are the PRIZE and a DJ must make the woman PROVE HERSELF to you that she's worth your attention.

Again, no hard fast rule but never show more interest or feelings than the woman. This is a poker game and you must never reveal your true hand, my friend. When you do - you lose the entire GAME.

Good luck

Exodus
Thanks, that's What I needed to hear because she doesn't initiate text or calls. Just future plans. So she doesn't really chase me. Now I know I should try ramping up physically on our next date.
 

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