"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Do you assume interest between dates?

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If you ask a girl out on dates and she constantly accepts them, do you assume she's interested in you?

Ive been on three dates and went in for the kiss and before i reached her lips she kissed me so passionately that she almost took my bottom lip lol. No but she seemed like she was waiting for the kiss forever because i leaned in and she pretty much met me. During the dates, she does a lot of future talk and the dates go really well, very engaging conversation, teasing, and flirting. She paid once when we went out to eat and has spoken about taking me to this expensive restaurant and said it was her treat.

Cutting to the chase, we pretty much have NC between dates, I contact her to go out on another date and she accepts and we plan it out a few days in advance. Our frequency is about 1 date per week.

My main thing is just because she agrees to go out with me, I don't want to think that its a done deal. All the signs seem to be positive imho but the more i invest the more my mind begins the play games with me. I'd be completely fine with NC what so ever in between our dates until i went in for the kiss. I guess that's what happens because you become emotionally invested with every intimate act.

I shouldn't worry right? It's all in my head I'm trying to tell myself. I may just be overthinking. Thanks anyways for the input guys.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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GotED? said:
WTF?......... sh!t on here just gets worse and worse....

She is showing HIGH interest, enjoy the ride and don't self sabotage it with your low self esteem and poor confidence/inner game.

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What i wanted to know. I apologize that you have to constantly go through "stupid" post but now i know it isnt the situation it's my inner game i need to work on. I appreciate your response though. It's just the whole NC thing between dates i need to get over but i guess works in my favor in the long run.
 

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There is no one single rule that magically works for all women.

If you have gone out after a few dates, she SHOULD start to actively chase you (texts you, calls you, more inputs to future dates, expressing her feelings, etc). It sounds like you may need to ramp up the physical escalation a bit more.

You are doing EXACTLY the correct thing - making yourself SCARCE in between dates so she MISSES you and RETAIN the high interest. However, later on - she's going to want more intimacy both emotionally, mentally, and physically. Make sure you FOLLOW her pace (IF you decide she is worth your time and energy) and never exceed her level of investment.

You are the PRIZE and a DJ must make the woman PROVE HERSELF to you that she's worth your attention.

Again, no hard fast rule but never show more interest or feelings than the woman. This is a poker game and you must never reveal your true hand, my friend. When you do - you lose the entire GAME.

Good luck

Exodus
 

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GotED? said:
There is no one single rule that magically works for all women.

If you have gone out after a few dates, she ULD start to actively chase you (texts you, calls you, more inputs to future dates, expressing her feelings, etc). It sounds like you may need to ramp up the physical escalation a bit more.

You are doing EXACTLY the correct thing - making yourself SCARCE in between dates so she MISSES you and RETAIN the high interest. However, later on - she's going to want more intimacy both emotionally, mentally, and physically. Make sure you FOLLOW her pace (IF you decide she is worth your time and energy) and never exceed her level of investment.

You are the PRIZE and a DJ must make the woman PROVE HERSELF to you that she's worth your attention.

Again, no hard fast rule but never show more interest or feelings than the woman. This is a poker game and you must never reveal your true hand, my friend. When you do - you lose the entire GAME.

Good luck

Exodus
Thanks, that's What I needed to hear because she doesn't initiate text or calls. Just future plans. So she doesn't really chase me. Now I know I should try ramping up physically on our next date.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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