"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Do you (Americans) greet with a cheek to cheek kiss?

SamePendo

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As maybe some of you know, I'm in the works of a gym guide.

But I stumbled again into something that I believe is very important.

In my country, whenever a man and a woman say hi, they kiss cheek to cheek. This happens in almost all situations, except in proffesional-like situations, and/or, when like it's you and a lady who is, well, indigenous, or feels below you or whatever. Anyway, in most situations, including what's most important to us DJs, that is, DJing, it's very very common for the cheek to cheek kiss take place as a greeting or farewell. The man normally initiates it, it's right cheek to right cheek, and very weak men don't initiate it.

Anyways, to my question to people who live in the U.S, and why not, elsewhere, do you do this?
I've seen TV. And, at least in US shows, they don't do it, and neither do most (Americans) who are here. Btw, I'm American too since I live in America the continent.

If not, you are missing out, since it's kind of a kino-ice-breaker. Especially if she's not used to it. If not, you could use it and say "oh, it's a habit I developed from being in ____". Allthough, maybe you guys could get sued for that shyat! :crackup: (I'm laughing AT you).
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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No, we dont do that here. I dont know why, and have never questioned it.
 

Charm&Style

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Same thing in persian culture and i believe european too...you greet with a cheek to cheek kiss.
 

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Actually...if you are of Latino Heritage (e.g. born in the U.S. but your parents and ethnicity is from Puerto Rico, Cuba, Dominican Republic, etc. or Puerto Rican as every Puerto Rican is a U.S. citizen by birth), then you can see the women to women kiss on the cheek or the woman-to-man kiss on the cheek.

If I'm not mistaking, second generation Italo-Americans do the same (males to males included).
 

SamePendo

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Thank you. Yes, indeed, here women also cheek to cheek kiss between them, didn't think about that. But man to man never. Unless, like the Master says, they are gay I guess.
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Occassionally a couple girls might do it, and maybe a guy and girl who are good friends. But it's fairly rare. You'll NEVER see guys do it here, unless they're gay I suppose.
 

00Kevin

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They do but only with their ass cheeks
 

spider_007

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yea, they do it in my old country too.... I usually put my cheek against theirs and "kiss the air"

I don't want their slober on me, and they don't want mine on them.
 

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Americans as a rule tend to require much more personal space, then is common in other cultures. I personally like my space too :box:

Still, I have found the cheek to cheek thing to be quite common, although admittedly I do tend to be around europeans alot.

I really hated visiting certain countries. The idea of personal space just doesn't exist there... and maybe I'm weird, but unless it's an attractive girl, I don't want anybody closer then 12 inches to me. Close talkers... beware :down:
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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In Italy it's very common to greet like that, even male to male.
 
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