"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Do you (Americans) greet with a cheek to cheek kiss?

SamePendo

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As maybe some of you know, I'm in the works of a gym guide.

But I stumbled again into something that I believe is very important.

In my country, whenever a man and a woman say hi, they kiss cheek to cheek. This happens in almost all situations, except in proffesional-like situations, and/or, when like it's you and a lady who is, well, indigenous, or feels below you or whatever. Anyway, in most situations, including what's most important to us DJs, that is, DJing, it's very very common for the cheek to cheek kiss take place as a greeting or farewell. The man normally initiates it, it's right cheek to right cheek, and very weak men don't initiate it.

Anyways, to my question to people who live in the U.S, and why not, elsewhere, do you do this?
I've seen TV. And, at least in US shows, they don't do it, and neither do most (Americans) who are here. Btw, I'm American too since I live in America the continent.

If not, you are missing out, since it's kind of a kino-ice-breaker. Especially if she's not used to it. If not, you could use it and say "oh, it's a habit I developed from being in ____". Allthough, maybe you guys could get sued for that shyat! :crackup: (I'm laughing AT you).
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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No, we dont do that here. I dont know why, and have never questioned it.
 

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Same thing in persian culture and i believe european too...you greet with a cheek to cheek kiss.
 

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Actually...if you are of Latino Heritage (e.g. born in the U.S. but your parents and ethnicity is from Puerto Rico, Cuba, Dominican Republic, etc. or Puerto Rican as every Puerto Rican is a U.S. citizen by birth), then you can see the women to women kiss on the cheek or the woman-to-man kiss on the cheek.

If I'm not mistaking, second generation Italo-Americans do the same (males to males included).
 

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Thank you. Yes, indeed, here women also cheek to cheek kiss between them, didn't think about that. But man to man never. Unless, like the Master says, they are gay I guess.
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Occassionally a couple girls might do it, and maybe a guy and girl who are good friends. But it's fairly rare. You'll NEVER see guys do it here, unless they're gay I suppose.
 

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They do but only with their ass cheeks
 

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yea, they do it in my old country too.... I usually put my cheek against theirs and "kiss the air"

I don't want their slober on me, and they don't want mine on them.
 

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Americans as a rule tend to require much more personal space, then is common in other cultures. I personally like my space too :box:

Still, I have found the cheek to cheek thing to be quite common, although admittedly I do tend to be around europeans alot.

I really hated visiting certain countries. The idea of personal space just doesn't exist there... and maybe I'm weird, but unless it's an attractive girl, I don't want anybody closer then 12 inches to me. Close talkers... beware :down:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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In Italy it's very common to greet like that, even male to male.
 
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