Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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do yall trust women?

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And if you slightly dont trust them, why all the questions about this or that?

Idk...im just frustrated at the moment.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I trust women, and if they break my trust I don't speak to them again. Always best to give them the benefit of the doubt at the beginning. Innocent until proven guilty.

A lot of guys take the "guilty until proven innocent" approach, and the problem with that is you lose all of the girls who were innocent to begin with (aka the ones you actually want).
 

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i give them as much benefit of the doubt as anyone when I first meet them. However, I don't think I will ever trust a woman to love me unconditionally. In that way, I would never believe a girl who said such a thing.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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There are things I trust about them:
1) I trust that they will demonstrate their true feeling through their actions
2) I trust that they will do what they perceive to be in their own best interest
3) I trust that when they say they will act differently from above, that they may be sincere and even believe what they are saying, but, the vast majority of the time...
(Back to 1)
 

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I trust every new woman I meet in life in any capacity 0%.

THEN each woman has a chance to gain my trust by her actions and build up.

Generally the best might make it up to 70%. To get past that mark with me there must be something major come up in MY life where I need them to go above and beyond for ME, with nothing it for themselves, and they do it and come through for me. My mother is the only one who has ever passed this mark and got to 100%. I really don't look for any others to make it there the rest of my life.
 

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Zarky said:
I trust certain individuals, whether they're men or women. And certain other individuals I don't trust.
I don't trust people who are one sex pretending to be another.
 

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From my experience with loads of women... No i do not.
 

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I trust women if they are close friends. My close friends I know will have my back, man or woman.

With regards to relationships, no I dont really trust women. Maybe Ill meet one in the future I can trust. But at this point in my life I do not trust them with regards to relationships.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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logicallefty said:
Generally the best might make it up to 70%. To get past that mark with me there must be something major come up in MY life where I need them to go above and beyond for ME, with nothing it for themselves, and they do it and come through for me. My mother is the only one who has ever passed this mark and got to 100%. I really don't look for any others to make it there the rest of my life.
My mother is the only woman I'd trust. In fact she is probably the only person in the world I'd trust full stop
 

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I think some of us are interpreting the word "trust" in different ways.

I use "trust" to mean "trust that she will behave honestly with me."

If by "trust" you mean "trust that she will treat me like an equal and we can have a type of friendship as between brothers," then no way in fricking HELL.
 
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