Do Y’all like Coffee Dates?

[captain55]

You're not quite THERE yet.

Being a high status man that is in no rush to get laid because he knows the woman is no better than him, does not change the fact that your chances of ending the date with getting laid or at least a makeup session are significantly less on a coffee date. For the average guy not wanting to waste time, coffee dates are a poor choice. For a man that wants a serious relationship, and is in no rush to get laid, they are not a death sentence but still not ideal IMO.

For the record my last coffee date I had lasted 2 1/2 hours. Didn't even end up in a makeup session. I enjoyed it but only because I wasn't trying to get laid that night. Had I been trying to **** her it would of been an epic waste of time.

 

[AJ84]

Guys if he lives in the US and she's 20 then he can't take her for drinks because the legal age to drink is 21. That's probably way he posted that he can't do that.

Also he's 21, someone above suggested he not date a 20 yr old but he's as young as she is not an older man.

OP do coffee with a walk, build comfort and aim for a movie date at home when the time feels right for you.

 

[guru1000]

Being a high status man that is in no rush to get laid because he knows the woman is no better than him, does not change the fact that your chances of ending the date with getting laid or at least a makeup session are significantly less on a coffee date. For the average guy not wanting to waste time, coffee dates are a poor choice. For a man that wants a serious relationship, and is in no rush to get laid, they are not a death sentence but still not ideal IMO.

For the record my last coffee date I had lasted 2 1/2 hours. Didn't even end up in a makeup session. I enjoyed it but only because I wasn't trying to get laid that night. Had I been trying to **** her it would of been an epic waste of time.

Seasoned men don't act with the sole motivation of getting laid all the time. I can make one phone call out of 20 deep, and have a 9 Uber right over, so new lays are not THAT exciting to me.

When I entertain new dates, I am there to have fun. My personality is extremely extroverted and fun so wherever I elect to bring a girl, irrespectively, SHE and I will have a non-stop laughing rapport filled with tons of excitement.

Social acuity is a gift for some, and conditioned for others. Once you reach the epitome of "game," there is no game, as your social dominance is internalized. Then all outside factors such as venue, surrounding people, alcohol become obsolete to the end result you desire.

IF I, for example, wanted to lay a new prospect, I could easily take her on a coffee date, open her up, and within one hour invite her over, and she will be fully immersed/engaged with me and thus willing to go anywhere I suggest, on the pretense of "continuing to hang out and have fun."

Newbies need certain rules to follow to give them structure. Once you are a master of this "game," you can surrender structure, and the "game" bends to YOU.

 

[AJ84]

Seasoned men don't act with the sole motivation of getting laid all the time. I can make one phone call out of 20 deep, and have a 9 Uber right over, so new lays are not THAT exciting to me.

When I entertain new dates, I am there to have fun. My personality is extremely extroverted and fun so wherever I elect to bring a girl, irrespectively, SHE and I will have a non-stop laughing rapport filled with tons of excitement.

Social acuity is a gift for some, and conditioned for others. Once you reach the epitome of "game," there is no game, as your social dominance is internalized. Then all outside factors such as venue, surrounding people, alcohol become obsolete to the end result you desire.

IF I, for example, wanted to lay a new prospect, I could easily take her on a coffee date, open her up, and within one hour invite her over, and she will be fully immersed/engaged with me and thus willing to go anywhere I suggest, on the pretense of "continuing to hang out and have fun."

Newbies need certain rules to follow to give them structure. Once you are a master of this "game," you can surrender structure, and the "game" bends to YOU.

Yeah, from a female perspective when a guy is so obviously just trying to get laid on a first date it's noticeable and in many causes a turn off. We know that sex is an end goal, no need to illustrate it every minute of a coffee or drink date. We like sex too and of course want to go there eventually if we like the guy but I tell you when they don't even seem to want to chat or get to know us on some other level it's like just hire a hooker then.

It's better when the guy, in addition to wanting to get laid also wants to have fun with us and do things, chat have a laugh, it shows he wants to enjoy himself and life with other people, has some substance to him.

 

[guru1000]

Yeah, from a female perspective when a guy is so obviously just trying to get laid on a first date it's noticeable and in many causes a turn off. We know that sex is an end goal, no need to illustrate it every minute of a coffee or drink date. We like sex too and of course want to go there eventually if we like the guy but I tell you when they don't even seem to want to chat or get to know us on some other level it's like just hire a hooker then.

It's better when the guy, in addition to wanting to get laid also wants to have fun with us and do things, chat have a laugh, it shows he wants to enjoy himself and life with other people, has some substance to him.

This is absolutely true.

One thing is certain in the way that I operate: Whether a girl is physically attracted to me at first sight or not, she WILL go out with me again. Simply because the range of emotions I push upon and the FUN that I ignite makes it impossible for her not to do want to do it again.

Once one "gets" it, it's so simple.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I knew a guy who got a job at Barnes & Noble and was excited about it. He thought he was going to hang out, drink coffee, and hit on girls. He later told me, "man, all I ever did was clean up diarrhea in their bathroom. You would not believe how much that coffee makes people sh!t."

Coffee shops are an urban thing. I can see that date going ok in the city. But in small towns, people don't go on coffee dates. You'd be at a Denny's or a truck stop, not exactly romantic. Day time dates in the country usually involve something that needs daylight to do - wilderness/outdoorsy type of stuff. Right now morel mushrooms are coming up. If I wanted a free date, I would take a girl mushroom hunting.

 

[ItsFate451]

Gonna take a few girls out soon and I’m thinking about going out for coffee. What do you all think though?

Coffee dates are a bad idea. I assume this coffee date will be sometime in the afternoon. If you want women to think of you as a lover or a potential LTR you take them out on evening dates only.

 

[Mike32ct]

Never tried it. There’s nothing sexy about coffee.

Coffee is for keeping awake at work, not a date or for gaming purposes.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

The coffee questions always reminds me of this:

Take her to like mini golf or some shït. Your young, as a baseline start practicing & taking chicks out on "active" dates. Not just sitting and chatting blah blah. Easier to transition in some kino as well.