"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Do women reject out of insecurity?

mahon83050

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Have this ever happpened to you? A girl who is actually attracted to you but rejects you out of her own insecurity? Insecurity meaning she thinks you are too good-looking for her, smart for her, good for her etc. (deep down though, she really wants to date you, but is afraid or uncomfortable to)I mean, I know we are not supposed to take rejection personally, so remember this could be a possibility.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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JT47319

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You may not have built up enough rapport/comfort with her. The initial attraction may have been there, but unless you establish that emotional attraction, she will think you are a player and just after her for sex, especially if you are good looking. The Attract Phase is simply one step in seduction.
 

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Creating insecurity is part of attracting her. Once you provide she sees you can give her security she is dependent on that. That influences the power of attraction.

-Grey Fox
 

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Yes, it has happened to me. Insecurity on her part was reinforced by my arrogance which made her feel even more insecure and she dropped me.
 

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I know a girl that, and I am not making this up, will not go out with anyone she meets on a Thursday, because every guy who she has meet on a thursday has treated her wrong (funny, I always seem to break up with girls on Sundays, but that's beside the point).

A girl can reject you for anything, so don't take it so personal.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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