Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
theres single women and theres single menOriginally posted by Juan_Man
I'm just curious to wonder how many single guys have gone this route on Valentine's Day Weekend.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
yes. Valentines day doesn't mean anything to me. In fact, I make sure all my girls get nothing.Originally posted by Caldus
Would you rather stay at home?
Sounds like you're going to be alone this Valentines... why don't you go to a bar and let us know how it turns out?Originally posted by Juan_Man
Does anyone have empirical evidence?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Last year i had met someone a few weeks before valentines dayOriginally posted by Caldus
Seems like people are rushing to get a GF before Valentine's Day. Wouldn't be logical to wait until after so that you don't have to buy them anything?![]()
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
we need more of dirty details on your night with the girl.Oxide said:Just as Postscript:
I went out, had a blast, had great conversations with girls ( one was about experiences in sex with a ****tail waitress who chose to sit down and talk during her worktime), got girls to buy me drinks and generally had a blast.
I met a girl, got her number, week later we went out and she ended up at my place.
I hope the rest of you went out as well.