"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Do Women Go To Bars On Valentine's Day?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
Caldus
Senior Don Juan
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
diablo
Master Don Juan
Sounds like you're going to be alone this Valentines... why don't you go to a bar and let us know how it turns out?
Caldus
Senior Don Juan
Tomatoes
Master Don Juan
Everyone sarge on V day. Easy PU!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
El MonoLoco
Master Don Juan
I'm hittin on anything with 2 tits a hole and a heartbeat.........lol
Actually I'm setting my standards sky high on V-Day.....
Which I shall no proclaim as National Singles Day just for fun.....
Good luck out there everyone.....knock um dead......
Ok don't go knocking anyone out but you get the drift........
Johnnie5
Don Juan
Last year i had met someone a few weeks before valentines dayOriginally posted by Caldus
Seems like people are rushing to get a GF before Valentine's Day. Wouldn't be logical to wait until after so that you don't have to buy them anything?
I was looking at LTR so things were progressing nicely
V Day wasnt looking forward to as didnt want to go and do the whole dinner , date , gift thing as it didnt feel like we were at that point as yet as she had been divorced and just getting back into dating so was a little reserved so V Day would have made date 4
So i thought to my self what can i do
Invitation to my place , i would cook some dinner and watch a movie
dinner went down well, movie was going well , all good but not up to full romance situation
Earlier in the week i figured that i needed to buy something or a card or something so i found a card that was along the lines of a hug type of thing, no lovey dovey ****, my girlfriend person i love forever sort of crap that prob would have sent her running away
So the card was along the lines see this hug its just for you , I wrote something about that i have enjoyed the time we have spent together and look forward to more good times , something like that
so midway through the movie i produced the card , she turned all gooey and was f closed in 2 secs flat
it pushed all the right buttons for her as it showed i had placed some thought into it all
remember just because its V Day doesnt mean you need to 'date' or spend bucket loads of money on someone, its all in the thought
Skydiver43127
Senior Don Juan
Tomatoes
Master Don Juan
I went out, had a blast, had great conversations with girls ( one was about experiences in sex with a ****tail waitress who chose to sit down and talk during her worktime), got girls to buy me drinks and generally had a blast.
I met a girl, got her number, week later we went out and she ended up at my place.
I hope the rest of you went out as well.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
picard
Master Don Juan
we need more of dirty details on your night with the girl.Oxide said: