Do women bring happiness?

[612_Da_Playa]

not only just women but does anything tangible bring happiness? I never hear anyone say that women bring lasting happiness. Like drugs, alcohol, money--a temporary happiness ya know?

 

[KontrollerX]

I think self love is the key to true and lasting happiness.

Not women.

You can be happy with a woman and possibly live with her your entire life and be happy but what if she leaves you or dies and then you are without her and your whole happiness was based on having her in your life?

Then you are screwed but if you have happiness from within, a love for yourself and a love for things that are certain and unchanging then you will always be truly happy no matter what happens to you in life.

 

[Obsidian]

Women should be a part of a well-ordered life. That is the natural order of things. Money and possibly alcohol should also be part of a well-ordered life. But none of those things by themselves brings happiness.

And a more appropriate conclusion would be that happiness brings women.

 

[Moofahsa]

I've seen more miserable people due to women than happy ones

women are a necessary evil

 

[reset]

...if you have happiness from within, a love for yourself and a love for things that are certain and unchanging then you will always be truly happy no matter what happens to you in life.

There is no such thing as happiness from without. It's not like a woman comes along and places happiness in your hand and you look at it and go "what do you know? Now I've got some happiness!"

When you feel good around a woman you are allowing yourself to perceive it in such a way that happiness is the end result. But she didn't create it. You created it by deciding that happiness was something you would feel in reference to her. Your thoughts create that feeling.

And that's the entire key. Your thoughts create the feeling of happiness, it's just that we wait for external events to unfold in such a way that we allow ourselves to generate that emotion. We generate it. We go round and round in circles looking for something outside, but the real answer is all over this board if you look for it. It comes from within.

 

[MacAvoy]

Simple answer "no" ... real answer, women bring "hell hathe & fury all balled up in one all while giving you that warm fuzzy feeling" to build you up so they can rip your entire world apart.

 

[backbreaker]

a GOOD WOMAN is the cherry on the top of an ice cream sundae

a BAD WOMAN is like taking an ice cream sundae and throwing it on the top of a stove

 

[lYlasTer]

If you are happy, then women can add to your happiness

If you are unhappy, then a woman cannot solve your problems

 

[Serialized3]

Do women bring happiness?

I guess it depends on if you can get them to bring over some good liquor or beer...

 

[belividere]

There is no such thing as happiness from without. It's not like a woman comes along and places happiness in your hand and you look at it and go "what do you know? Now I've got some happiness!"

When you feel good around a woman you are allowing yourself to perceive it in such a way that happiness is the end result. But she didn't create it. You created it by deciding that happiness was something you would feel in reference to her. Your thoughts create that feeling.

And that's the entire key. Your thoughts create the feeling of happiness, it's just that we wait for external events to unfold in such a way that we allow ourselves to generate that emotion. We generate it. We go round and round in circles looking for something outside, but the real answer is all over this board if you look for it. It comes from within.

This is one of the few thought provoking responses I've read on this site in a long time.

 

[Obsidian]

that's a very apt analogy, backbreaker

 

[JLR]

Pretty clear the answer to the OP's question is a resounding "no." To echo sentiments already expressed, self-love & -respect will lead to happiness. A "good", "quality" woman enhances that, and as noted above, only if YOU allow it to. I spent many years looking for others to provide me with feelings of happiness only to finally realize that only I can make myself truly happy. Everything else, in my experience, is a mirage, something upon which I project my need/want for happiness. There are some very well-evolved & perceptive people here...respect to all you men.

 

[comic_relief]

And that's the entire key. Your thoughts create the feeling of happiness, it's just that we wait for external events to unfold in such a way that we allow ourselves to generate that emotion. We generate it. We go round and round in circles looking for something outside, but the real answer is all over this board if you look for it. It comes from within.

As pook has said, "Happiness is a choice." You chose to let yourself become happy.

In a short answer, yes women can bring you happiness (or at least an illusion of happiness as reset pointed out), but longlasting happiness is another beast.
In the long term of things women cannot bring happiness to your life. It is not their job to do such things. It is YOUR job to bring yourself happiness.

I find that if you continually chase happiness, then you will never get it. But just enjoy life it will find you.

Figure out what happiness means to you and go do it. Then, you might just find true happiness.

comic_relief

 

[penkitten]

no other person can bring another "happiness"
happiness must be found within yourself.
it is not something that can be bought or won.

if you don't have happiness, you should not be settling down in a ltr with anyone because you aren't ready and you need to work on yourself.

some people never achieve happiness because they think it is something that comes from another person or a material item. they always have something new to complain about, they belittle others and they seem money hungry to keep up with the jones'. these are people that never took a step back and looked at their own self, never examined their own heads and hearts to see what makes themselves tick or what would make them happy.
for some people, they can not be happy without religion. why? it is what makes them tick and having a godly love, makes them happy.

so my answer is no, nobody else can bring you happiness.

 

[Scars]

Short term, yes.
Long term, no.

****ing tons of different woman wont solve all your problems..

 

[speakeasy]

First off, people often confuse fun with happiness and they aren't the same. Happiness is long term satisfaction, whereas fun is more like a temporary high. You can be happy in general even if you're not having "fun" if you know what I mean.

I think happiness= your expectations - your reality. If you have high expectations yet your reality doesn't live up to it, then you are unhappy. The Pope would probably say he is happy yet he doesn't have a woman, but his expectations are to live a life of spiritual contemplation void of sexuality or vice, so in his realm, he can be happy. If you expectation is to bang a new woman every week and you aren't getting any, then you will be unhappy.

So I guess the key to happiness is to either change your expectations or make your reality meet your expectations.

 

[ope]

What I think about happyness: if my friend will stay whit me and have fun all the time like we do when we are toghethere i`m happy, u know drinking toghethere, go town and beat poor kids, swearing ppl and the ones at the banks, playing on pc, when he is around me i don`t need any girl, i just need something to f*ck at night those thing will make me to smile all the time

And girls or womens don`t bring happyness just something that u don`t get insane. You can`t live whitout them
From all the girls that i meet the more i see her the more hate goes towards her.

man i don`t like girls but i can`t live whitout them.

 

[Paintballguy]

The bottom line is getting a girlfriend won't make you "happy" if you are not currently "happy". Everyone thinks getting a girl will magically solve every problem in your life.

I used to have the mindset that I needed a girlfriend. After awhile, I realized that wasn't the case and found self-happiness.

 

[beastmaster79]

i think having fun, positive relationships with people you enjoy is a big part of happiness. we are social creatures. you can never have enough friends either so just talk to new people all the time and see if you click. focus on other people and engage with them. if people enjoy your presence they will brighten up when they see you so you'll be met with good vibes all over the place.

 

[beastmaster79]

don't get too attached to individuals, just learn to enjoy people. that way its not so much an external thing as it is an internalized mindset.