"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Do Women Approach You?

guytime

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Jair213 said:
Was talkin to op

But good sh!tt brahhh. Im getting shredded too. Being bodybuilding For about 2 years now. Man. The effect of a muscular body plays a big role. I notice the same effects too..
I have an above average physique, but I've never had a fitness model/bodybuilder's physique.

I go through periods where I work out regularly and other times where I don't.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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JaegerPilot217 said:
awesome, glad to hear about the exceptions, yes I know they are rare but when they happen, and it you end up getting laid by a girls initiative, im sure its a much bigger confidence booster
I'm at the point where I no longer really get a confidence boost from pulling girls. I'm just looking for a cool chick.

Usually after I've woken up and I'm given the chance to see the girl I ****ed without her makeup, I end up feeling regretful more than anything.
 

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guytime said:
I have an above average physique, but I've never had a fitness model/bodybuilder's physique.

I go through periods where I work out regularly and other times where I don't.
Hey bro didnt specifically mean harving a bodybuilders physique. If you have a lean fit physique the bishes should be Mirin hard..
 

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In my experience, this has everything to do with mood, body language, and aura.

Women pick up on this **** ten times more than men, and most men (myself included) are not always aware what they're projecting.

I've tested this, and definitely get more action when I force myself to have a more inviting vibe. I have friends that are magnetic, and everywhere we go women just seem at ease with them. Haven't figured out how to emulate it yet, but I'd damn sure like some suggestions! Lol
 

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If women are not throwing themselves at you, you're doing it wrong. Go back to the psychological drawing board and figure out childhood traumas, relationship with your parents, etc. Get everything straightened out and make things easier on yourself.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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From my experience, high school girls were more likely to make the first move than college girls were, college girls are more passive
 

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It's pretty rare that girls have directly approached me. The ones that have usually haven't been the prettiest.

What I've noticed is that the more attractive women do it a little differently: If they're interested they'll make sure they're in your vicinity - constantly trying to capture your attention so you'll initiate conversation with them. I guess girls prefer men to take the lead.. but it makes sense I suppose.
 

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SteR said:
It's pretty rare that girls have directly approached me. The ones that have usually haven't been the prettiest.

What I've noticed is that the more attractive women do it a little differently: If they're interested they'll make sure they're in your vicinity - constantly trying to capture your attention so you'll initiate conversation with them. I guess girls prefer men to take the lead.. but it makes sense I suppose.
Yeah the more desirable a woman is, the more likely she will expect the man to take the lead, initiate things, But what I can't stand is when taken girls, girls who have a boyfriend already, give out flirty signals, like smile and look at me, give a come hither look in order for me to approach them, and after I have approached and talked to them, and then find out they have a boyfriend, it makes me feel like I wasted my breath talking to them
 

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When I was in better shape and really shy and a beta male believe it or not I was getting approached a lot. Girls were telling my friends I was "fine" Gained some weight not in bad shape per se, but a little chunky and it doesn't happen as often, but it still does. Not trying to toot my own horn. I have been called ugly to haahahahahahahaha
 

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PeasantPlayer said:
When I was in better shape and really shy and a beta male believe it or not I was getting approached a lot. Girls were telling my friends I was "fine" Gained some weight not in bad shape per se, but a little chunky and it doesn't happen as often, but it still does. Not trying to toot my own horn. I have been called ugly to haahahahahahahaha
In what type of settings were you getting approached at? In school? Bars?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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