"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Do we make socializing more complicated than it really is??

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Whenever I talk to people in a natural way, without trying too hard, stay within myself, just focusing on making them feel comfortable and talking to them about whatever they find interesting, I totally dominate socially. I talked to 2 guys at my gym yesterday and they both liked me instantly- I think because they can sense I'm genuinely a good person


I think this PUA stuff makes socializing way more complicated than it really is. If you're genuinely a good person, with a good attitude, people will like you everywhere you go just for being yourself.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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A lot of it really is being relaxed and upbeat while talking to folks and focusing on them. I still deal with anxiety every so often but when I have it under control, I get into a zone and people respond exceptionally well. You don't even have to talk about anything meaningful as long as you'reengaging and have fun with it.

It took me talking to a lot of people and working the sales counter in my shop to get good at it. Just keep talking to folks, even a low spectrum aspycan learn to socialize well.
 
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Southbound29 said:
A lot of it really is being relaxed and upbeat while talking to folks and focusing on them.
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I agree 100%

plus if you come across that you don'
want anything from them (outcome independent), you become very very likable

edit: also slow the interaction down. I feel like I'm a much better talker when I speak slow and it helps me control the situation better
 
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