Do we make socializing more complicated than it really is??

[bigdave17]

Whenever I talk to people in a natural way, without trying too hard, stay within myself, just focusing on making them feel comfortable and talking to them about whatever they find interesting, I totally dominate socially. I talked to 2 guys at my gym yesterday and they both liked me instantly- I think because they can sense I'm genuinely a good person


I think this PUA stuff makes socializing way more complicated than it really is. If you're genuinely a good person, with a good attitude, people will like you everywhere you go just for being yourself.

 

[Southbound29]

A lot of it really is being relaxed and upbeat while talking to folks and focusing on them. I still deal with anxiety every so often but when I have it under control, I get into a zone and people respond exceptionally well. You don't even have to talk about anything meaningful as long as you'reengaging and have fun with it.

It took me talking to a lot of people and working the sales counter in my shop to get good at it. Just keep talking to folks, even a low spectrum aspycan learn to socialize well.

 

[bigdave17]

A lot of it really is being relaxed and upbeat while talking to folks and focusing on them.

I agree 100%

plus if you come across that you don'
want anything from them (outcome independent), you become very very likable

edit: also slow the interaction down. I feel like I'm a much better talker when I speak slow and it helps me control the situation better