"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Whenever I talk to people in a natural way, without trying too hard, stay within myself, just focusing on making them feel comfortable and talking to them about whatever they find interesting, I totally dominate socially. I talked to 2 guys at my gym yesterday and they both liked me instantly- I think because they can sense I'm genuinely a good person


I think this PUA stuff makes socializing way more complicated than it really is. If you're genuinely a good person, with a good attitude, people will like you everywhere you go just for being yourself.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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A lot of it really is being relaxed and upbeat while talking to folks and focusing on them. I still deal with anxiety every so often but when I have it under control, I get into a zone and people respond exceptionally well. You don't even have to talk about anything meaningful as long as you'reengaging and have fun with it.

It took me talking to a lot of people and working the sales counter in my shop to get good at it. Just keep talking to folks, even a low spectrum aspycan learn to socialize well.
 
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Southbound29 said:
A lot of it really is being relaxed and upbeat while talking to folks and focusing on them.
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I agree 100%

plus if you come across that you don'
want anything from them (outcome independent), you become very very likable

edit: also slow the interaction down. I feel like I'm a much better talker when I speak slow and it helps me control the situation better
 
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