You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Ha ha... you can't be serious? Talk about putting on a fascade.guywhoneedshelp said:I'll tell you what I do, I don't answer the calls.
But I call back, maybe 10 minutes later, but make sure it is loud wherever I am. Even if I have to blast the stereo in my bedroom when I'm home and have work the next day, you don't want to appear as if you have no life.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Well, yes. I've had a girl text me to say she was going to the movies, but I was at a party so couldn't be there. Then she texted me saying she was having people come over, so I left my friends house and went there. Ya know...spontaneous..depends on where you live I guess...verysuave said:okay, so have you gotten laid for telling them "WHERE YOU ARE AT and meeting with them" on a friday/saturday.. with no prior arrangements earlier in the week. did that ever lead to a lay? im not dissing u or anything but, im just curious about this... tnx
u serious? u respond to BS texts?guywhoneedshelp said:Well, yes. I've had a girl text me to say she was going to the movies, but I was at a party so couldn't be there. Then she texted me saying she was having people come over, so I left my friends house and went there. Ya know...spontaneous..depends on where you live I guess...
Sometimes a girl will text and say something random like "I just broke my ankle" and I'll be like "lol what" and she'll be like "we're all drinking at walmart and someone just stepped on my foot" and I'll be like "lol i gotta see this " *show up in 15 minutes with my friend in the car*
Yea...seems like a bunch of d bags to me.I.A.F.Y.B. said:Why is this a big deal? Maybe, a girl who likes you is going out to a party and wants you to come. But, since you didn;t wanna answer your phone you missed out. I think some of guys are way too concerned in trying to act "busy" and "mysterious"...
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
+1. Sorry guys but most of your responses are pathetic. Sure, you don't want to be accessible every second or drop what your doing to pick up the phone... but don't put on a facade either.jdon23 said:This thread is full of fail.
Why are you scared to answer your phone?
Maybe she is calling you thinking of banging you that night but you have your damn rules and completely ruin it for yourself
would you want to deal with people you don't feel like dealing with at the moment? Me, noarmadon said:I answer my phone because I don't really care. I was even doing laundry on a Saturday night one time and a chick called and asked what I was doing. I told her laundry and she laughed and asked if she could come over. I said sure and she watched me do laundry and we f*cked.
I have no idea why people don't answer their cell phones when it's on them 24/7.
That's what I'm saying. The way you answer plays a big part in it too.jdon23 said:This thread is full of fail.
Why are you scared to answer your phone?
Maybe she is calling you thinking of banging you that night but you have your damn rules and completely ruin it for yourself
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
guywhoneedshelp said:That's what I'm saying. The way you answer plays a big part in it too.
Don't answer saying "i'm so bored...life sucks...I'm doing laundry." be like "well right now I got some dirty clothing spinning around in the washing machine, pretty intense!"
be fun and exciting and she will be attracted to that.
BY the way
MANY GIRLS WILL COME SEE YOU ON A FRIDAY AND A SATURDAY AND F*** THE SH!T OUTTA YOU, WHICH COULD BE WHY THEY ARE TEXTING/CALLING YOU TO BEGIN WITH!!!!!!
On a side note - Leykis 101 suggests never answering your phone on a Friday or Saturday night unless it is a guaranteed booty call. If not, I'd call back in 10 minutes, say sorry I was busy doing SOMETHING. While we may not want to appear pathetic, some girls actually understand that I have to be at work at 8:00AM on Saturday and Sunday and I may be home sleeping on a Friday or Saturday night. When I tell girls "yea I went to the city, got back at 4:00AM and went to sleep on the couch at work until my shift starting at 8" it doesn't make me sound any more attractive. It only makes me sound like I need a shower.
crazymedstudent said:Did I play it wrong?
^ Lame. If you're p1ssed off at her, don't tell her how mad you are... just respond to her accordingly. Don't talk about it, be about it. She will see right through the tough guy routine if you lay it out in front of her.so I then texted her "horoscopes, got your message from saturday night but was busy. were you texting to try to win some brownie points? Cause its not that easy"
^Whaaaattt... She's going to lose a.s.a.p. if you're treating her like a disobedient girlfriend and you've only been on a couple datesOur previous text message conversation had been about how she was dropping the ball/losing brownie points and she said what could she do to earn those points back.
^in other words, you're telling her she can treat you like crap and she'll still have her with way with you in the endI told her "maybe you can take me out for drinks but seeing as how you can't pick up your phone, I find that a tall order for you".
^ aka "Nevermind. I'm no longer interested."She responded with a "I'm in the process of moving into the city with my future roommate but as soon as I'm settled in I will take you out for drinks".
She probably had low intrest before you started trying to play games. You could have told her you were studying figuring you ARE a med student. Most people understand, and if they dont, eff them. Theres no reason to play these trivial games and pretend youre super rad and cool and busy.crazymedstudent said:hey,
I've been going back and forth with this HB7.5. She doesn't pick up my phone calls and then will respond a couple days later via email. I've asked her out twice and each time she suggests another date or time period but I tell her I can't do that date (i'm in med school and don't have much free time).
She texted me last weekend on saturday night (around 11ish) "Are you out in the city tonight?". Since I was staying in studying for my first set of tests I didn't respond and waited til Wednesday to call. She didn't pick up and so I then texted her "horoscopes, got your message from saturday night but was busy. were you texting to try to win some brownie points? Cause its not that easy" Our previous text message conversation had been about how she was dropping the ball/losing brownie points and she said what could she do to earn those points back. I told her "maybe you can take me out for drinks but seeing as how you can't pick up your phone, I find that a tall order for you". She responded with a "I'm in the process of moving into the city with my future roommate but as soon as I'm settled in I will take you out for drinks".
She didnt respond to my text from Wednesday night and I'm thinking maybe I should've responded to her text on saturday night. Did I play it wrong?
appreciate any input.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.