"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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do u have a girlfriend?

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so this girl asked me by e-mail if i had a girlfriend.
i don't, so...
i'm not sure where to go with this.....
should i just come out and say no?
gosh i know this sound like a really stupid question, but what should i be putting in her mind?

i was thinking of using somebody's quote "i don't have a gf, but i know a girl that'll get mad if she heard me say that"
but that might make me seem like a person that wouldn't care about my gf if i had one.

over complicated much?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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just say you havnt found the right girl or that you dont need a girlfriend or something...no biggie, that is unless you want her as your GF
 

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That means she wants ya buddy. That's what it's always been for me.

I wouldn't lie about having a gf though, if you don't have one she'll find out and that'll be lame for you.
 

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if you dont have a gf then tell her you dont have a gf, what's your problem? she obviously likes you enough to ask.
 

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You want to put in her mind that she can persue you (with you being the prize) if she wants to.

Don't use some preplanned line or anything, just straight out tell her... "nope, I haven't found a girl who can handle me yet :p"

use your own words though!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Crazy Asian

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Grand Wizzard Alamar said:
You want to put in her mind that she can persue you (with you being the prize) if she wants to.

Don't use some preplanned line or anything, just straight out tell her... "nope, I haven't found a girl who can handle me yet :p"

use your own words though!
aight thx.
thats the idea i was looking for :)
 

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this is wut i came up with:

i would have a gf, but every single one i've been with complained about my enormous schlong ;)
 
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Crazy Asian said:
this is wut i came up with:

i would have a gf, but every single one i've been with complained about my enormous schlong ;)
LOL

Ever tried that one?
 

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nope, lol
but i should come up with a better reference to my penis than schlong...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Here's what you say:

"I'm currently unattached."

BUT, you gotta say it JUST RIGHT --- with the right tone, cadence, and facial expression. I can't explain it.
 

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she sent an e-mail to me, so i can't really show expression.

and u know wut i hate?
i send an e-mail to a girl and in my mind i think i'm thinking of it in a funny way. but since you can't show ur expressions through e-mail, she gets the wrong meaning of it and gets pissed.
 
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A girl asked me this the other day and I just told her "I'm not really involved with anyone right now"... not sure if this was a good response or not.

I should have gone with

"Why, Would you like to apply for the position?"
 

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haha it always sucks when you think of something better to say after you've already said something.
 

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"Why, Would you like to apply for the position?"

nice haha
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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"Why do YOU want to know?" (Big grin)

This works for anything you don't want to answer ;)
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
A girl asked me this the other day and I just told her "I'm not really involved with anyone right now"... not sure if this was a good response or not.

I should have gone with

"Why, Would you like to apply for the position?"
Rata Blanca said:
"Why do YOU want to know?" (Big grin)

This works for anything you don't want to answer
Gold :D
 

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Crazy Asian said:
i was thinking of using somebody's quote "i don't have a gf, but i know a girl that'll get mad if she heard me say that"
but that might make me seem like a person that wouldn't care about my gf if i had one.
Now where have I heard that before... hmmm...

*notices sig*

OH! Hey, that's mine!






...Yay!!
 

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"Sorry, but im taken....my BF gets angry whenever someone asks me if I have a GF. Sorry:( "
 
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