Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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do u have a girlfriend?

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so this girl asked me by e-mail if i had a girlfriend.
i don't, so...
i'm not sure where to go with this.....
should i just come out and say no?
gosh i know this sound like a really stupid question, but what should i be putting in her mind?

i was thinking of using somebody's quote "i don't have a gf, but i know a girl that'll get mad if she heard me say that"
but that might make me seem like a person that wouldn't care about my gf if i had one.

over complicated much?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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just say you havnt found the right girl or that you dont need a girlfriend or something...no biggie, that is unless you want her as your GF
 

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That means she wants ya buddy. That's what it's always been for me.

I wouldn't lie about having a gf though, if you don't have one she'll find out and that'll be lame for you.
 

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if you dont have a gf then tell her you dont have a gf, what's your problem? she obviously likes you enough to ask.
 

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You want to put in her mind that she can persue you (with you being the prize) if she wants to.

Don't use some preplanned line or anything, just straight out tell her... "nope, I haven't found a girl who can handle me yet :p"

use your own words though!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Grand Wizzard Alamar said:
You want to put in her mind that she can persue you (with you being the prize) if she wants to.

Don't use some preplanned line or anything, just straight out tell her... "nope, I haven't found a girl who can handle me yet :p"

use your own words though!
aight thx.
thats the idea i was looking for :)
 

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this is wut i came up with:

i would have a gf, but every single one i've been with complained about my enormous schlong ;)
 
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Crazy Asian said:
this is wut i came up with:

i would have a gf, but every single one i've been with complained about my enormous schlong ;)
LOL

Ever tried that one?
 

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nope, lol
but i should come up with a better reference to my penis than schlong...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Here's what you say:

"I'm currently unattached."

BUT, you gotta say it JUST RIGHT --- with the right tone, cadence, and facial expression. I can't explain it.
 

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she sent an e-mail to me, so i can't really show expression.

and u know wut i hate?
i send an e-mail to a girl and in my mind i think i'm thinking of it in a funny way. but since you can't show ur expressions through e-mail, she gets the wrong meaning of it and gets pissed.
 
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A girl asked me this the other day and I just told her "I'm not really involved with anyone right now"... not sure if this was a good response or not.

I should have gone with

"Why, Would you like to apply for the position?"
 

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haha it always sucks when you think of something better to say after you've already said something.
 

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"Why, Would you like to apply for the position?"

nice haha
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"Why do YOU want to know?" (Big grin)

This works for anything you don't want to answer ;)
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
A girl asked me this the other day and I just told her "I'm not really involved with anyone right now"... not sure if this was a good response or not.

I should have gone with

"Why, Would you like to apply for the position?"
Rata Blanca said:
"Why do YOU want to know?" (Big grin)

This works for anything you don't want to answer
Gold :D
 

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Crazy Asian said:
i was thinking of using somebody's quote "i don't have a gf, but i know a girl that'll get mad if she heard me say that"
but that might make me seem like a person that wouldn't care about my gf if i had one.
Now where have I heard that before... hmmm...

*notices sig*

OH! Hey, that's mine!






...Yay!!
 

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"Sorry, but im taken....my BF gets angry whenever someone asks me if I have a GF. Sorry:( "
 
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