"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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do u believe u can become a real confident person or i guess "alpha" if u werent

bow down to me

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during childhood like you were in a shell or just average (had a few friends a couple girlfriends but not super confident) or maybe parent beat u and had low confidence. do you think it is possible to change to be a real confident person and what are the ways to change? just talking to everyone is what you guys normally say is it that simple
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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musclyjerk

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Confidence is all you need more of - in yourself and what you have to offer.

I wouldn't even focus on trying to be 'alpha' if that's not really you. Some people are BORN alpha and don't feel comfortable unless they're jossling to be a 'leader' of a pack and if you're not one of them, don't even go there.

Concentrate on confidence. You will be happy to know it grows with age. :)

Experience more. Do more. Face your fears.

The smallest things can do wonders for your confidence

E.G. If you fear swimming because you lack confidence or think you look out of shape or whatever, go to the public swimming baths.. have a swim.. get showered and walk out of their feeling like a million bucks for having the balls to present your body in public.

E.G. If you're not comfortable talking to women, go to the bakers, cafe's, shops etc and just make small-talk with people as you're buying things. Comment on the weather.. hell.. go for a coffee in an average coffee shop and tell them how much you prefer their coffee to starbucks and crack a little joke..... they'l probably say something back and you will feel GREAT...have your coffee and walk out of their feeling like a million bucks.

Talking more to people will become an addiction and before you know it, you will begin to really enjoy socialising and feel more confident coming out of your shell and expressing your thoughts more etc.

Constant interactions like these will improve your confidence like nothing else over time.. and things do take time.

Hope this helps,

The Muscly Jerk
 

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it depends on the person, I've known people who have been very quiet as a child then as they get older 'experience' seems to bring them out of their shell, sometimes to become a confident, outgoing individual, so yes I do believe it's possible.

I believe if you think about the type of person you want to be, i.e. in your case, more confident, then start to do things that will allow you to be, take each day as it comes, have a plan to work from, start off small and eventually your start to become the person you want to be
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Definately.

Often the most confident socially adept people started out shy and learned to be confident.

As for "alpha"... just try to be the best person YOU can be. Don't worry about all this alpha bull****.
 

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I believe that you can become more of a confident person. I myself have gotten a major boost in confidence in the past couple years. I had catarax when I was 4 months old, and they had to remove the lenses from my eyes. As a result, growing up, I had large LARGE glasses. I also wore pretty BAD looking clothes, since I didnt know any better. Since I graduated, I have had lenses implanted into my eyes, removing the need for glasses, and have updated my wardrobe, which was a big help as well. Theres still alot of self improvment needed, but at least Im getting dates, and am getting laid these days!.... Heal thy self!

-Trent
 
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